I know I'm not but there's strength in numbers

[DialMforMother]

As the mother of a 5 month old dd I have to admit that I have been a little busy lately.

Last night in bed I commented on the rather extensive nature of dh's toenails saying that they were what one would expect to find on a streetperson. He responded with 'sad at bambi's mother dying' face and said that this was because 'no-one is looking after me'. I pointed out that most men in their 30s manage to groom themselves and that I had been a little busy for a while growing another person. I asked whether he thought under the circumstances my lack of attention to his enormoys great grown-up person's feet was unreasonable. He suggested that I might wish to canvas opinion on here. I have no idea why as it's clear that he IBU and I ANBU however I thought that if I could add weight to my argument I might be able to get a massage and maybe a pedicure out of it.

It doesn't need to NOT be a non-sequiter when a grown man has wailed "bwaaaahhhhhh nobody is looking after my penis meeeee!"

I am going to skip 'YANBU/YABU' and go straight to 'WTF'?!

Is this a joke or are you a chiropodist in non mummy life?

He's a grown man so should be able to do them himself. In his defence, though, it's probably not occurred to him if he's in the habit of getting them done.

As for me, I have to do my hubbie's toenails for him - after a quad heart bypass it's kinda painful for him to get down there these days. I always know when it's coming when the coffee, cake and stool gets put in front of me. But I love him, and that's why I do it and otherwise he's pretty fit and still does everything he's ever done.

theprofiterolethief pmsl

I have never cut DH's toe nails, and unless he becomes unable to do it himself due to a medical reason, I wont be.

I do get him to paint mine though.

YANBU

Profiterolethief, I just snorted coke over my keyboard thanks

I had the same comments, over and over again. I'm not being looked after, no-one is caring for me, I feel sorry for myself.

Anytime he came near me, he tried to give me a job, massage this, file that, pluck this, pluck that.

All while he wouldn't ever lift a finger for DS.

Nip this in the bud now, or his sense of entitlement will only grow and get out of hand.

Tell him if he wants you to help him with stuff, then he has to do his fair share and I mean 50% of parenting.

Your dh sounds like mine, he likes to do that poor poor me routine every once in a while. Actually so do I but obviously and quite clearly all extra love, care and attention spare should be going on you right now (if there is any spare from your dd that is!)

I'm really not at all keen on feet, so none of that sort of stuff goes on here. For some reason I am the only one who does the children's toes, but I hope that soon they will take over (they are 10 and 11). I did for a while cut my mothers toe nails when her arthritis was so bad she couldn't reach and before she felt able to ask my father (she's very old school, and felt he couldn't possibly cope). Somehow it is a very personal thing.

'he tried to give me a job, massage this, file that, pluck this, pluck that'...and you were not even being paid!!..

maybe he's just missing your undivided attention (some women do that (I did) when we are child-free)...he will get used to it..
my Dh was reminising the other day..all the goodness he got before we had children remind him to apprieciate (sp)...

Poor bloke. He's working ft; cooking nearly all meals; sorting out child trust fund and banking; playing with dd and taking her when he can so I can catch up on sleep. All he wants is for someone to see to his poor neglected little tootsies. 'Tis a cruel cruel world Munsnet and no mistake. :)

tell him you'll give him a pedi if he trims your foo fluff.

book for a pedi Dial..may not be you but tootsies would be happy

foo fluff??? ...if its what I think it is..I get my DH to do that too

I cut DS's toenails.
I cut DD's toenails.
I cut my own toenails.
There I draw the line. -------------

OP you are a saint for EVER cutting your DH's toenails. Eugh! and Vom!

My DH painted my toenails when I was pregnant & couldn't see them. After I gave birth and could finally see my feet, I found that he'd just been painting the centre of each toenail. No idea why he thought that was the way to do it.

Foo fluff?! Fantastic - am going to run that past him right now (so to speak ;) )

Get a scythe and offer to trim them for him

Kathy bless. They need help don't they?

Mumcentreplus how much more appreciation can a man show than foo fluff trimming?

I wouldn't touch my DH's feet if you paid me. They're gross.

seriously foo fluff trimming is sexy and funny..

There is no way on God's Green Earth that I would let my dh anyway near my "foo fluff".

I've seen what he does to his chin. I don't want bits of bog roll stuck all over my ladygarden, thank you very much.

anywhere

lmaooo@ Dial