Phone Sex

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Sorry for subject line!! but.. my dp currently working away as per a previous thread and due home next week after a few weeks, as you can imagine we are both missing alittle bit of action as well of each other opf course.

However, all day today he's been texting very suggestive messages to me which I admit was a turn on and I did play along, but then tonight when he phoned he wanted to carry on and tried to initiate what i can only presume is referred to as "Phone Sex" but i just didn't feel comfortable with it and so didn't really get very far but get the impression now he was a bit miffed and so feel a bit ashmamed of myself :(

It's fairly easy to do this sort of thing by text but I too would find it mortifying on the phone

picture messages are your friend, and sexting is far sexier than phone sex. Send him a hot and heavy message and get back to it!

That's exactly it I can hide behind text easily and be a little more adventurous but it just didn't feel right saying it on the phone!

I just feel that I slightly to blame having perhaps led him on all day.

I'd be worried about it getting stuck.

If you're not in the vibe, you're not in the vibe. Try going back to the texts, and just say you feel a bit awkward talking.

ROFL @ teth!!!

Thanks barbara I have done that i think understands he just said it seems more personal if we talk rather than just text. i know what he means and perhaps I just need more courage or better still him home lol!

In the old days it was so straightforward...no texts...just the art of conversation. Delightful!

Technology as got a lot to answer for lol!!

Without prying just curiosity do others partake in this activity and do you have the same hangups?

I couldn't do it talking.I blush even reading dirty texts. But I can do what I can via text, and the bashfulness seems to still work

Yes, text sex or online/webcam sex is probably better. Or just text him a dirty picture of you :)

I would probably get self conscious over the phone. I can do cybersex (on messenger etc) but sometimes halfway through lose the moment and get embarrassed but the other person doesn't know that, so it's okay.

Just be honest with him, I'm sure he'll understand :) and the dirty picture will help him along I'm sure :)

My version of this was to get DP (now DH) to do all the talking and then he would sort himself, easy... Eventually it got easier to join in

I think I didn't help with the texts during the day and then when it came to the crunch I struggled - still sober then lol! If I just listened I would be fine it's the answering back that seemed a bit wrong.

Must admit the only time I've ever done it, I polished and cleaned my bedroom whilst talking to my then dp so that he could sort himself out. He was so into it that he didn't realise I was wandering around and wasn't actually joining in. Bless him.

Thank god for walkie talkie type phones!

Rofl @ Fia! I just didn't have the guts lol!

No, to be fair, if you're not in the mood then anything is going to be crap whether it's cyber/text/phone or real sex. Just on the phone/messenger etc it's harder for your partner to notice that so they probably come across as insensitive where they wouldn't be normally, if that makes sense?

Also much easier to get distracted or suddenly become very aware of reality on phone/msn/text etc which really gets you out of the mood, and doesn't help.