to be a bit disappointed

[MaimAndKilloki]

that my friends have chosen to go to the pub rather than come to a Hallowe'en celebration put on by myself and DH. Especially after they've previously kicked up a fuss about us not making it round to theirs due to no transport.

I wouldn't try and change their mind as I'd never force them to do anything they don't want to do, but it has made me a bit sad.

And it's not like I can go to the pub (not a great venue for my disability)

Should add, this friend has known me a long long time, and knows that Halloween means a lot to me. For personal and religious reasons.

Sorry not answering the question exactly but am intrigued to know what religous reasons ? Perhaps your friends are uncomfortable about 'celebrating' Hallowe'en (for their own religious reasons) but don't quite know how to tell you. I would never want to go to a Hallowe'en party.

I'm Pagan. She's always enjoyed celebrating it with me before, and has (in the past) been my main help organising parties for it.

Despite being Christian she shares some Pagan beliefs with me, so don't think it is that.

Maybe she has just gone off Halloween. I hate it-not for religious reasons- I just can't stand the Americanisation and trick and treating. We always do out best to escape and get away from home for the night.-

It's a Halloween pub night :(

If she's always helped you with Halloween bashes before maybe she musts wants one year off
in the scheme of things it's only once she's disappointed you in how many years?

Just have a good time without her then and tell her about it afterwards. (perhaps someone just asked her first).

Perhaps she just wants to enjoy the night put on by the pub rather than help you organise a party

That's true bigchris, just smarts after the fuss she kicked up when we couldn't make one of her parties.

Had she arranged to go to the pub do before you invited her to yours?

Halloween seems to be starting to fall out of favour from what I have seen. I've seen that two local places (a school and a pre-school) have changed their halloween parties into just parties after parents complained.

I've not seen that happen before, I don't think it is a religious thing but more the sense of it getting too much.

Doesn't seem so Dance, at first she told me she thought she'd be working that night. So I assume she decided after finding out.

I'm genuinely interested in how a Christian shares some Pagan beliefs - can you clarify?

They aren't actually so dissimilar tbh. Whereas I don't believe in a god, and see nature as the strongest force. She sees nature as a the strongest force but as a representation of god. And doesn't entirely follow the bible.

err........ interesting point of view, not sure I entirely understand

As far as I can tell all religions are the same at heart, so makes sense that you can have overlaps.

Is she punishing you because you missed one if her parties?

I really hope not Took us months to get past that one, it better not be that again