giving MiL lifts DH should help more?

[minxofmancunia]

Me and MiL have a "difficult" ralationship HOWEVER she's a great GP and the dcs love her.

Twice a month she travels over the pennines in public transport and comes to see dcs for the afternoon. She takes them out, park cafe has a nice time. then I make us all dinner and she goes home.

Dh just leaves her to walk to the bus stop on her own. Now it's dark and cold especially I think he should give her a lift to the bus stop/station and wait with her. He refuses "inconveinient". I know he gets irritated with her dependency thing she has going on (and she did used to be a LOT of a nightmare with stuff) but I don't think it's much to ask that he gives her a quick lift.

As I don't like my Dad driving too far these days I always drop him off/pick him up from the station and wait with him. It can be a bit scary and lonely at stations in M/CR in the eve.

I know he's annoyed with the fact she never bothered learning to drive but it's not going to happen now at age 65!

As a result I end up doing it, but I think he should, it's his Mum and it's not much to ask really.

AIBU??

Yanbu
it would make me wonder how he'd treat you in your old age!

Has she asked? Does she mind? I know some mothers/grandmothers of an independent-minded bent would feel that they don't need taking to the bus stop. "Stop treating me like a doddery old woman!"

I think he should actually

I wouldn't leave a friend to walk to a bus stop in the dark

Or, could you drive her?

It sounds like she has a tricky ish journey to get to you and spend time with you all

Ah, I've just realised that she doesn't walk to the bus stop, you drive her. Does it really matter in that case? If he's not happy driving can you just say 'DH, will you do while I pop your mum over to the bus stop?' So you are both doing useful things.

I would be annoyed if he was sat watching tv while you sorted out kids and rushed to take MIL to the bus stop.

This is where men and women differ. Women have social consciences (sp), men don't.

YANBU. your dh should drive his mum to the bus stop.

Just because you think something doesn't mean he should think it too.

"Women have social consciences (sp), men don't."

Oh shut up, what a stupid thing to say.

YANBU. DH always drives MIL tothe train station.

YANBU, Doesn't he want to say bye to his mum and see her off?

yanbu, he is being a dick

I agree with Heracles, that's a bloody stupid thing to say.

I think that probably someone should drive her to the bus stop tbh. I would do it for a a friend/acquaintance. I wouldn't want to do it for my own mil, but I would.

I also think your dh is being a bit awkward with her and with you.