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To not want people over tonight?

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Sugarmuppet · 16/10/2010 10:40

DD slept 12-14 hours every night since she was 6 weeks old, never once woken up between the hours of 6pm and 6am. She is now 8 1/2 months.

We have organised a get together tonight, about 20 people, 4 staying over. Thought it would be fine, DD sleeps through anything and as I say never faultered in her sleep in nearly 8 months.

Anyway, last night she woke at 9pm SCREAMING, like I have never heard her cry before, stopped the second I picked her up. I didn't have a clue what to do, so went to warm some milk. By the time I got back up the stairs she was fast asleep. She woke at 3am and 5am and took 4oz of milk each time. Then woke as normal at half 8 and took her usual 8oz.

To get back to the point, I suggested to OH that we put off guests tonight and do it another night (it isn't for anything special, other than our booze cupboard is overflowing Blush ). He was not happy to say the least, saying you can't live your life round a baby etc etc etc, she will be fine tonight. How does he know that? She has never screamed like that before, it upset me so much. I won't be able to relax tonight for listening for her and then if she does start I will have to go upstairs to her anyway.

He has buggered off with the dog for a walk, so should I phone everyone and cancel or stop being so silly and get on with it?

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mumblechum · 16/10/2010 10:43

Mmm, I'd be inclined to go ahead with your plans but be prepared to pop up to her if she's screaming again.

our social life seems to have ground to a halt lately, so it would bother me to miss out on some fun - if you have a very active social life, cancelling tonight isn't going to matter much.

ModreB · 16/10/2010 10:47

She probably just had a bad dream. My DS2 used to do this, from a very early age, about the same as your DD, and carried on until he was about 7 or 8 yo. Screamed like a banshee, then went back to sleep.

Don't worry, have your get together.

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Sugarmuppet · 16/10/2010 10:47

No first time we have had anything like this since I found out I was pregnant.

Had the shittiest pregnancy, basically bed bound for 7 months, DD came early and breastfeeding since. I am gagging quite looking forward to a wee drink!

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gracevictoria · 16/10/2010 12:31

She's not teething is she?

3thumbedwitch · 16/10/2010 12:33

no don't cancel - she might not do it again and then your DH will sulk about it.

If she does wake screaming again and there are people there, it won't matter - anyone who comes to stay at a house with a fairly new baby has to expect there is a chance of some sleep disruption!

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Sugarmuppet · 16/10/2010 12:34

I don't think so, she got 3 teeth in 3 days last month, no bother what so ever.

Did have a look and a feel in her mouth this morning, and couldn't see anything new.

So out of character for her, but she is absolutly fine at the moment. Normally when she wakes in the morning she just chatters to herself, thats what she did as usual at half eight this morning, but a piercing screaming during the night. :(

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booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 12:39

dont cancel, you deserve some fun. and she might be totally fine. people will expect you to have to see to the baby every so often anyway.

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Sugarmuppet · 16/10/2010 12:39

3thumbed - thats exactly what OH said, 'babies cry, its what they do, people expect that!' My baby doesn't though, or didn't, we have been lucky so far I guess.

Yes, think we will go ahead, he is a terrible sulker! Not worth the upset really, just take it as it comes tonight.

Do you think I did the right thing feeding her? She was obviously hungry. Was funny last night when she started, me and OH just looked at each other in horror - 'DD's crying! What the feck do we do?!'

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bigchris · 16/10/2010 12:40

No it's too late to cancel 20 people
it'll be fine
be sure to tell dh not to drink too much so he can help look after her if she does wake up

booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 12:44

yes if she was hungry then feeding her is teh right thing to do.

it could be any number of things, teething,growth spurt (hungry), bad dream, heard a noise, just woke up and felt lonely because she isn't used to waking without you there.

i can imagine it must have been strange when you are so used to her just sleeping all night.

belgo · 16/10/2010 12:44

You have had one night of screaming in the last seven months? Wow.....

backwardpossom · 16/10/2010 12:44

Have your get together tonight - it wouldn't be the end of the world if she woke again, would it?

booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 12:45

backward i read your name as backwardpooson Blush Grin

backwardpossom · 16/10/2010 12:48

Arf!

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Sugarmuppet · 16/10/2010 12:57

Thanks all, I must sound terrible complaining about one night when there are others suffering every night! But if she did it every night or at least more often I wouldn't have been so worried!

Do you think 7 months of 12 hour sleeps without exception is some kind of record? Grin Maybe she is going to make the next 7 months hell to make up for it! I won't mind as long as she is okay and I can comfort her, it was horrible last night to see her so upset.

OH has promised not to drink himself silly too much and do breakfast for everyone tomorrow so fair compromise, esp if she does sleep through!

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booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 13:06

i think it might be a record Grin

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