Dh is really, really getting on my tits!

[MrsLucasNorth]

...and that's about it basically.

Anyone else feeling like they'd happily trade their other half in for a teasmade and a 'rabbit'?!

getting on your tits so much you had to post twice??

PMSL

Ok maybe not enough to post twice - bloody phone!

What's he done?

Mine does sometimes..just with his um general manness!

He's 41 and has spent the last three weeks or so acting like he's 81, constantly nitpicking.

He's been home all the time so I've had no time or space for myself.

He's now announced that he's going out tonight as well as tomorrow night and Sunday and several times over the next few weeks which is fine, except one of the things he's been moaning about is all the bills he has to pay and that I don't contribute enough.

His mum has been on the phone sticking her oar into things that don't concern her and as usual he just goes along with everything she says.

And I'm tired and would have got some treats I'm for tonight if I'd known I would have the house to myself. Instead I've got a ready meal and then helping out at dd's club - grrrrr!

Argh! Fucking MIL on the doorstep now...

Erm, that isn't on. How are your finances arranged?

Because I 'contribute' nothing, except free childcare which enables DH to go out to work every day and we have the same spending money for ourselves each month and the rest is either for joint things, or goes into the savings pot.

Dh pays mortgage, bills. I pay dd's expenses, car insurance, food, my own personal expenses. Have also over the last few months paid for 2 weekends away, all the costs of dd's birthday party & gifts, winter clothes for dd, a years breakdown cover for car and a terms swimming lessons.
I only work p/t and he is complaining about me not giving him money towards bills (i used to but food is so bloody expensive now I think it pretty much cancels it out) and the fact I have credit card debt (which he also has - and I pay my own so don't really see the relevance).

Is it me?

You need to sit down and do a full budget. All his costs are fixed - mortgage and bills - whereas yours are flexible and more likely to suddenly increase in the short term.

When we both worked, we sat down and worked out how much we both needed for commute to work, some for lunches without being daft (so no, oh it costs £10 a day) and then after the rest of the bills were worked out and we had put enough in the joint account to cover food, meals and days out, things for the house etc, we divided up the rest between us and that was our spending. Exactly the same amount for each of us, despite the fact that he earned a fair bit more than me.

He probably has no idea how much food and bits for your DD cost, DH is regularly horrified by the size of our food bill because he isn't the one that does the shopping.
Sit down and lay it all out - then you will see who has more 'spending money'.

Pfft - it's not you, he's a twat.

Tell him so

Thank you Squitten!

Dd's club had enough helpers tonight so managed to get to shops. Now have crispy duck in oven, wine in fridge and haagen daz in freezer. North & South cued up on the dvd for when dd goes to bed!

Think we need to have words though....

Mrs LN
I am sorry that Lucas is such a tightwad (who knew!). You should have words. Plus an interfering Mother in Law. Poor you.
Enjoy North and South - if that doesn't do the trick you can always avail yourself of the following:
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Just think of those speedos..

LEAVE HIM WHAT A UTTER K**B

...and he's still going on. I just suggested I stop paying for all the stuff I cover and he's said 'alright then and so will I and see how far we get', he's even nitpicking about the fact I haven't reimbursed him for paying my dental check up fee last month FFS!
Incredible how he's so hard done by but can afford to be out last night and tonight and going to football and a concert next week

Anyone? Ok so I'm mostly ranting, but don't think iabu to reckon he's taking the piss.

Reckon if you don't get this sorted out it could really fester and become A Major Problem.
Make him sit down with you and do budget, and also resolve not to get huffy with each other while you do it.

forget the teasmade, i'll swop mine just for the RR. Seriously.