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To Want To Delete This 'Friend' From Facebook

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midori1999 · 15/10/2010 15:48

as I find her twee status updates annoying beyond all belief? Hmm

I have no idea why I accepted her request in the first place, tbh, but deleting her will no doubt cause bad feeling. She is a dreadful gossip and although I am not sure she has malicious intent, she does gossip about things people would prefer kept secret or have told her in confidence. She is one of these people who pretends to be interested and caring, but really just wants the 'goss'.

Her status updates are things like 'had such a wonderful day with my lovely friend, I am so lucky' or 'is looking forward to seeing her wonderful husband tonight' or 'had a wonderful day with her three boys' (two DC and her DH) or 'had a wonderful day making lunch for her amazing husband and his friend from work, I do so love entertaining and making people happy' or 'was given an amazing gift today by a fantastic friend, I am so very lucky'...

Gah! It sounds even worse now I have written it down, I am not kidding you. I mean, doesn't the woman ever get annoyed or irritated? Is there nothing imperfect about her whole wonderful life?!

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SeaTrek · 15/10/2010 15:50

Just hide her from your newsfeed! I have hidden a lot of people for the same reason.

izzybiz · 15/10/2010 15:51

If it will cause bad feeling to delete her you can always just block her from your news feed...
She'll never know and you won't have to put up with her status updates anymore Grin

TondelayooohSchwarlock · 15/10/2010 15:52

Yeah, Block Her. I block my DSis because her posts are insane and scary.

YANBU btw. She sounds a total twat.

Sullwah · 15/10/2010 15:52

I have hidden someone who wanted to let me every single boring detail of their life.

It is very easy to do and causes no hard feelings cos they never know!

Jazmyn · 15/10/2010 15:55

I hid my uncle as his insanely upbeat, "holier than thou", religeous updates really got on my tits!

GoldenHaze · 15/10/2010 15:57

Remove her. She won't even notice, unless you're her only friend!

WitchyFlisspaps · 15/10/2010 16:01

Be thankful, a couple I know use their status updates to chat to each other through the day to save her phone credit. For example

XXX is looking forward to seeing his wonderful gf at lunchtime.

GF: can't w8 2 c u hun, just goin 2 town
XXX: love u, I want ham sandwiches, what about u?
GF: dunno, mite have sum ham sandwiches too...
XXX: Ok, love you, c u later.

etc

All day, every day. And they're really, really nice people, but don't seem to be able to understand what the inbox is for...

stealthpony · 15/10/2010 16:06

Hahaha I have one of these friends too. Everything is so "wonderful" with her "lovely husband".

Really? Even though he was shagging about behind your back with your sister 18 months ago?

wukterWOOO · 15/10/2010 16:17

Lady protests too much.

She probably deserves your sympathy, not scorn.

Anyway, just hide her, don't delete.

perfumedlife · 15/10/2010 16:18

hahaha is that for real stealthpony??

I would delete on the grounds of her total princessy delusion.

booooooooooyhoo · 15/10/2010 16:28

i agree, she is probably miserable as sin. i know a few people like that, tehy post like they are on cloud 9 with teh best life ever but because they are family i know all is not rosy in the garden.

tassisssss · 15/10/2010 16:32

So delete her!

She might not even notice.

I think I'll have a FB friends purge myself.

thereisalightanditnevergoesout · 15/10/2010 16:32

I was defriended by someone and didn't even notice for ages. I wasn't bothered by the way - it was one of those peple who sent a request and I confirmed though didn't really know why.

Other people I've hidden and some I've deleted just because it seemed fairly pointless - and I doubt they've noticed either.

Thingumy · 15/10/2010 16:32
BaggyCoconut · 15/10/2010 16:34

I would hide her from your news feed, then you dont have to look at it! If you are concerned about her gossiping about anything you put up you can also stop her being able to see things you put, and still have her on your friends list, if removing her would cause upset.

I have ended up with people on my list that I only have on there to keep the peace, and thats what I do, but I only really play games on there and private chat anyway.

cumbria81 · 15/10/2010 16:36

I have two friends who have recently become a couple.

I had to hide them as every day they were posting the most sickly, vomit-inducing crap to each other I wanted to hurl.

booooooooooyhoo · 15/10/2010 16:37

thingumy if this bores you then just just hide the thread. no need to be yawning all over the rest of us. and cover your mouth.

Thingumy · 15/10/2010 16:39

I did cover my mouth,I'm not uncouth.

Seriously,if someone pisses you off on facebook-delete the fucker.

AnnieLoBOOseder · 15/10/2010 16:42

You don't have to delete if it will cause bad feeling, you can just block hide her updates. I've done that to a few friends who were sharing more than I cared to know about. Smile

fastedwina · 15/10/2010 16:42

wonder if we have the same 'friend' as she is the same and has 2 DS as well! Agree she could be miserable and this is her way of projecting that she's happy,

Question - how do you know if someone had defriended you? can you just no longer access their wall or are you notified?

booooooooooyhoo · 15/10/2010 16:47

no you aren't notified. if you know how many friends you have and then are suddenly down by one then you know someone has defriended you. then it is a guessing game as to who it is, unless of course you have pissed someone off recently, then you might have a fair idea Grin

what you can access is dependant on what settings they have done. some allow wall and photos. some jsut allow info.

AbsofCroissant · 15/10/2010 16:49

You just can't access their profile. You (fortunately? Depending on which side it's from) don't get a message saying "you've been unadded - LOSER".

MidnightsChild · 15/10/2010 16:56

I've hidden the news feed on quite a lot of people ... its easier and less offensive than declining their original friend requests or de-friending them. I have used both the de-friend and block options, but only where I'm certain that is the action I want to take and there is no concern over the potential for offense.

I tried out de-friending with someone and you are not notified. You might notice the lack of news feeds, but unless you scan your friends lists regularly you are most likely not to notice unless you tried to access their profile. This latter depends what level of security they've set on their profile as some allow full access to all and sundry anyway.

thereisalightanditnevergoesout · 15/10/2010 16:57

The only reason I was aware was that I realised I hadn't seen a post from this person for a while and I looked at my friends' list and realised they'd gone.

Weirdly, though, this same person sent me a friend request last week.

I ignored it.

ForMashGetSmash · 15/10/2010 17:05

I think we have the same friend! Mine also has many wonderful and beautiful people in her life...they constantly give her flowers and say cute things. Her husband is such a special man and her DC's are delightful darlings... She also has an annoying habit of saying "Ohoooo!" a lot....and I don't know if she means "Ohhhh" or "Oh Ho!"

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