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To not wake my baby up for GP

18 replies

strawberrycake · 15/10/2010 12:28

He's been teething/ under the weather with a old, he's been ropey on and off for a while with reflux/ milk allergy issues etc.

Thankfully he's peacefully asleep now after a big moan all morning. My parents just rung asking to come and see him as they're in the area (rare!) but seem really put out I'm leaving him to sleep. In fact they might not come.

I've said they're very welcome, and that he MAY be awake by then but I got the undercurrent that they expect me to rouse and dress him ready to be cute.

10 min warning, he's 4 months. They don't normally find time for him, have NEVER looked after him. Their choice, it's my baby and I can cope, but I'm pissed off how they

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faverolles · 15/10/2010 12:32

I read it as not wanting to wake him for the Dr!

If it's for gp's (and I don't mean guinea pigs) who rarely make an effort, then tell them he's not been well, and if he stays asleep, you're not going to wake him!

YANBU

Chil1234 · 15/10/2010 12:33

I've always thought that visiting small babies is a lottery on the awake-front. I don't think I saw my nephew with his eyes open for about a year! Your son doesn't exist to entertain his gramps. Welcome them by all means but, of course, let him finish his sleep.

brokeoven · 15/10/2010 12:35

defo nbu.

thats how it is end of.
Tell them the kettle is on, you would love to see them for some grown up chat but baby has been hidious so you wont wake him.

no problem, just make a fuss of them x

bumpybecky · 15/10/2010 12:37

YANBU not even a little tiny bit U

do not let them make you feel guilty

LilRedWG · 15/10/2010 12:38

Hell no - never wake a teething baby. It spells disaster.

FoundWanting · 15/10/2010 12:41

The only piece of parenting advice my mother has ever given me.

Never wake a sleeping baby.

MumNWLondon · 15/10/2010 12:44

I had this with my MIL, would say don't wake him but I want to go and look at him and of course he'd wake up.

LoopyLoupGarou · 15/10/2010 12:44

not in the slightest bit unreasonable.

Silly grandparents.

cat64 · 15/10/2010 12:48

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NordicPrincess · 15/10/2010 12:50

never wake any sleeping baby teething or not!

TattyDevine · 15/10/2010 13:06

Unless you have to do the school run or go about daily life of course... Smile

BubbleBobble · 15/10/2010 14:15

Definitely YANBU.

My dad is fantastic with my 5 month old DS, but by god, I wanted to kill him when he came round as I was trying to get DS to sleep. He wanted a cuddle and didn't care I was putting cream on for DS's eczema, very quickly before he got upset and overtired. No, cuddles must come first, so he grabbed DS off the changing mat as I was putting steroid cream on his face. My mum was there and we both SCREAMED at him.

Ooops. I appear to have ranted. Blush Carry on.

BaggyCoconut · 15/10/2010 14:19

YANBU

Let your poor DS sleep, he sounds like he could more than do with it, and with an under the weather/teething baby I bet you could do with him asleep for a bit too!

Just tell GP that if they want to see him awake come back when he's feeling better!

DialMforMother · 15/10/2010 14:25

Also the only piece of advice my mum gave me (although I can see her THINKING when I mention co- sleeping :) ) Never wake a sleeping baby. YANBU.

agedknees · 15/10/2010 15:25

Never, ever wake a sleeping baby. When I was a community midwife, if I visited and the baby was asleep I would give the mum my mobile number to ring so I could come back to examine the baby when he/she was awake.

YANBU.

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strawberrycake · 15/10/2010 15:31

Thanks!

Well in the end they came and Dad went to 'look at him while he sleeps' and unsurprisingly returned 5 min later with him awake Hmm

He is very much a cute toy for them. He was surprisingly good considering but got grizzly after half an hour as he was hungry. I practically had to yank him off Dad to feed him as it didn't seem to compute that baby might not want cuddles any more!

I said to them today if they want to see him why don't they just come and pick him up sometimes or I'll drop him round. I don't expect free babysitting but it does work both ways, I'm fed up of my plans revolving around taking him to them or dropping things to be on hand while they play. I would have quiet happily met friends with or without ds today while they had their play and dealt with the consequences of over-cuddling at the wrong times.

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BubbleBobble · 15/10/2010 16:31

Your dad sounds like mine, strawberrycake. He does the 'oh, I'm only looking at the sleeping baby' thing too.

I'm slowly training him. If he wakes my DS up one more time, I'm locking all the doors and not letting him leave until he soothes the baby back to sleep. Grin

booooooooooyhoo · 15/10/2010 16:35

your dad is like my mum.

she just has to go and look at him and then she just has to check he isn't to warm/cold Hmm of course that always wakes him but it isn't her fault because he is such a light sleeper Hmm

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