to expect to be informed when DH takes the bloody screws out of the cot...

[EvilEyeButterPie]

GRR! I know he probably just forgot to mention it, but still.

The cot has been missing a minor screw for a while, it's not been urgent as it is on the side wedged up to the wall and the rest of the cot is sturdy. I've been nagging DH to do something about it for ages (every time I say I will mend it he insists that he should do it, he goes past the shop on his way to work, and he says I will do it wrong, even though I am actually quite practical and have even done light building work as a job, as has he)

Anyway, it seems that this morning he decided he would mend it, but first he should take out all the screws that hold the bar panel bit up (if that makes sense) so he could buy the right new ones (no idea why he needs them ALL) but he forgot to tell me.

So, he goes off to work, I take the kids to get dressed, and while I am dressing the baby, 3yo DD1 asks to sit in the cot, which she does quite often to play with the toys. She ended up leaning on the side, the whole side collapses, child and cot bars fall down onto me and baby. Luckily no-one was seriously hurt, but I am mightily pissed off.

If I was doing something like that, I would have put the side down on the floor anyway, just to make it clear that the cot was unsafe.

Or AIBU and I should double check all child equipment any time I use it in case it has been partially dismantled? And be grateful that DH has taken time out of his busy day to do so?

(I have just had to cancel a work appointment as children are now grumpy and clingy and I can't do the other stuff I need to do in time to set off. I have dumped them on MIL for 20 minutes to do the stuff, but had to nip on here to vent first!)

Some men are very clever, but seem to lack that 'common sense' gene that the daftest of women has.

My DH is one of them.

Glad you are all OK.

P.S. Not suggesting you are daft

I hope he is suitable contrite & whisks you off for the weekend somewhere nice at the very least!

Oooh I would be mighty pissed off myself, my dh blocked the hoover head cleaning the floor (new carpet is going down today and I wanted to make sure that we had clean floors underneath as there has been a moth issue recently!) and just left it so when I moved the sodding hoover all the crap has gone over the rest of the house.

I would be Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr to. Especially over something as basic as the cot, what if MIL had come over and put the baby to sleep in the cot and plonk out falls baby. Who would have had to take the blame then?

That's it, I keep thinking of how it could be worse. A three year old falling what, to her, is a short distance and mainly landing on me isn't so bad. What if I had put the baby down to crawl while I got something and three year old landed on her? What if I hadn't been there to cushion the three year olds fall?

Argh!

I don't think YABU in the first instance, but, to keep posting about what ifs is ridiculous. What if a dirty great doberman somehow learned how to open your front door, go into the bedroom and joined your DD in the cot?

I should add I have nothing against doberman dogs, and doubt that they have developed the means necessary to open a door. I could have used the example of a shit zhu or a macaque monkey.

No, yanbu it is plain common sense!

Yanbu.

But women also lack the common sense gene. Its not a man-woman thing.

Think you are right he should have said what he had done, bit dangerous otherwise.
I would be 'grrr' at him.

But if you are practical, I think you should have just put the screw in yourself and ignored him when he said he would do it.

Lol at the doberman comment. Dobies ARE quite wily, being tax inspectors' dogs and all... might only come in if your tax return looked dodgy though.

Right, now where do I put the baby for her nap? I might go all SamCam and put her in a cardboard box, not that she will stay in it when she wakes up as she is nearly 1, but I can watch her.

"what if MIL had come over and put the baby to sleep in the cot and plonk out falls baby"

Am I a really bad person because I have just laughed at 'and plonk out falls baby'

Sorry OP. What possessed your DH, the moron.

I was worried IWBU, due to not properly checking the cot. But, when you have a baby shouting and a 3yo moaning and it is 8am and you have run out of coffee, it just doesn't occur to you to check if screws are still there!

err no I have never thought to make sure that DH hasn't removed the screws from the cot - shut the baby gate maybe but nothing like this!

GetOrf, definitely not a bad person for laughing - just thinking of the look on my MIL face if the baby did plonk out of the cot. Might be worth a go to catch it on camera.