to expect her to be on time?

[shell96]

SIL has been great the last couple of weeks giving DS and I lifts while DP has been working away in our car but am I asking too much to expect her to be on time? I am grateful to her for helping us but if you say you will collect/drop off someone at a certain time shouldn't you at least try and be on time?

Admittedly I am an especially punctual person and all of DPs family seem to run on a clock about half an hour behind (DP included) and it drives me mad!!

I probably am being unreasonable and should just be thankful she is good enough to help us but just ranting a bit after yet another mad dash to work...

yanbu-ish. My sister is always late, even when I get somewhere on time with 2 toddlers in tow.

But don't moan at her and get a taxi if it's a big problem.

If it makes you late for work then YANBU. If it doesn't make you late YABU.

Can't you tell her you need to be in early next week and it will get her to you half an hour earlier

haha - I thought of reddaisy's idea as well -tell her you need to be there earlier

she gave us a lift twice last week and then today. I was late for work twice last week and then today! I like the idea about saying i am starting early but unfortunately she knows im on the early shift and what time my office opens. May resort to walking next week but that means getting ds up extra early...

I think if you can get to work under your own steam then you should. It will save the stress of being late and in the end, she is doing you a favour.

I have a friend that does this, I automatically subtract 45 mins to any time I want to meet up with her! Maybe tell her a bit earlier :).

Some people have no idea of time. I had a friend who was always late for stuff.

She would look at her watch, laugh and say 'oh I was supposed to be there half an hour ago, ha ha ha, what do you think about these trousers?'

She was quite ditzy and 'say it quietly' spoiled.

You won't change her habits unfortunately, I think it's a passive aggressive control thing myself, but I might be over the top there.