to be fucked off spending a fortune on hen nights, stag dos, presents, hotels, FLIGHTS and outfits on weddings when you know they are just gonna get divorced within a year ?

[LadyBlaBlah]

In the last few years there have been waaaay too many weddings we have been to, at great expense, where we just know the couple are going to get divorced. And they have.

We have been invited to one in Italy next year (WITHOUT DCs) and it is obvious they are going to get divorced. They hate each other now.

I think we should back out now. DH says "it's his mate from being 5 bla bla bla". I think it's just one big waste of money.

What Chil said. I think its selfish to expect people to travel abroad at great expense to attend a wedding when most people are struggling to afford a family holiday.

Alrhough I don't mind it when the bride and groom elope abroad and then come back and have a big party for family and friends. best of both worlds.

I think I've got to the point of not really enjoying weddings anymore. Mean as it sounds, I would not go abroad for a hen do or wedding where I thought the marriage was doomed from the start. If I wanted a week-end in Italy, it would have to be where I chose to go.

It's not just about cost, either, it's the amount of your time swallowed up.

Run a book at the reception on how long it will be before they divorce. DH did this once, and he won and scooped loads!

So, in your opinion, what's the acceptable amount of time that they have to be married to make it worthwhile?

"mid 30's desperados"

If they knew you'd called them that they wouldn't even want you there!

you obviously don't like them, I'm surprised they invited you
Just don't go.

I wouldn't go. You obviously won't enjoy yourself so there's no point spending the money.

At least you have the excuse that it's in Italy.

I am surprised they want us there really. I get the feeling most of their other friends have fallen out with them they don't have many friends

The blending concept is interesting. I am not sure yet of the exact theme required, however I am lead to believe there is a list

Your husband wants to go. So you should, if you can afford it. If you really can't, you have an excuse not to go.

I always think people who have weddings abroad (unless there's a sensible reason like it's the bride/ groom's home country) lose all rights to expect attendees.