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Original poster

to not have my operation if they dont allow dh into anaesthetic room?

62 replies

mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 14:21

Am having mirena and hysteroscopy next week (private).
Have been seeing consultsnt for almost a year, he knows my history and the rough time I had with ds2 and my PTSD etc. He said there would be no problem with dh coming into the anaesthetic room with me until I go off to sleep.

The assessment nurse just rang about my MRSA screen, and I mentioned it to her (glad I did now) because she said 'ooh we dont normally allow that sort of thing' Hmm

She is going to discuss with the anaesthetist and theatre team and get back to me.

I dont think I'll be able to go through with it if dh wasnt with me, hes very calming Smile. I will be stressed x 100 without him Sad

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Sidge · 14/10/2010 17:15

As you know, it's not standard procedure for adults to go into the anaesthetic room so I imagine that's why the nurse said what she did.

The consultant may say it's no problem but ultimately the decision rests with the anaesthetist. If he's a laid back chap I'm sure he'll agree.

Hope it goes well for you.

ChoChoSan · 14/10/2010 17:21

Hi Mosschops,

I felt the same prior to going in for my hysteroscopy in Barts.

However, when I got there, I could see that the ward was brand spanking new and superclean - immaculate. The lack of 'random others' such as my boyfriend hanging around, made for a completely clean and serene environment, and when I came round I was on a lovely peaceful ward with only other patients in their beds. The staff were kind and re-assuring.

When I have been to hospital at other times it has been noisy, a bit grubby, and lacking in privacy, with loads of non patients shuffling around in outdoor coats, laden with shopping bags, chatting on mobiles etc.

Although I had initially been miffed about boyfriend being refused entry, I actually ended up thinking THIS is what all hospitals should be like...lovely, clean and peaceful.

I would add that I dont have phobias or anything like that, so my case may differ from yours, but I had previously worried that I needed reassurance, but I was much more grateful for the experience I actually got in the end.

I hope that the experience is as easy as possible for you.

Original poster
mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 17:53

chocho can I ask how your hysteroscopy went? Did you have it under GA?

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gasman · 14/10/2010 17:54

Ok

I think you would BU for refusing your operation if your request was refused and it might well be.

I don't like having extraneous folk in the anaesthetic room watching as I get performance anxiety. In addition, as you know the 'watcher' needs someone to escort them out afterwards - lots of people who aren't familar with it find it really hard to see their loved ones going off to sleep. I don't even know what your DH does but I found it really hard to see my Dad in recovery in the hospital I work in. Somehow the personal relationship overtakes the sensible professional bit.

Childrens hospitals/ wards are very well set up for this whereas adult services are not. A delay in removing parents / support can cause problems as I'm sure you are aware. My impression of the private sector (don't work much there) is that they are even shorter on spare bodies to support someone's husband than the NHS.

However, if you outlined your story as above and there was a spare member fo staff available I'd probably allow it.

I hope it goes well.

Original poster
mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 17:56

thanks for your post gasman I dont think dh will be too much trouble. He saw my insides drop out my stomach and managed to remain calm so Im sure he can cope with pretty much anything now Wink
I appreciate that someone will have to act as a chaperone and just hope they have someone available on the day to do this

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Hulababy · 14/10/2010 17:58

When I had my hysteroscopies (have two within 3 months of one another) they were both under GA. My DDH had to bring my to the hospital around 7:30ish but then had to leave straight away once I was settled in. He wasn't allowed to even stay til it was time for my op, let alone come down to theatre area.

I hope you can get something sorted that you feel happy with and hope the hysteroscopy goes well.

The hardes part of having a GA I found was the sore throat afterwards.

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mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 18:00

thanks hula, how did you feel 'down there' afterwards.
Do you know if you were intubated. I think Im just having an LMA (larygeal mask) so Im hoping this will minimise the sore throat thing or maybe you still get them with LMA's I dont know.
I am going to try for a gas induction with airway management but think I might be pushing my luck

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Dracschick · 14/10/2010 18:02

I hope they allow your dh in,and that all goes well.

I am intrigued to know why the (private) was used though??

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mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 18:07

what u mean, why I put private in brackets?

so that before lots of people came on and said that you cant have a mirena inserted on the nhs or that nhs resources dont cover visitors in theatre etc I just wanted to clear up thats it a private case, with a consultant I have seen numerous times and is aware of my history

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Dracschick · 14/10/2010 18:12

Oh right Blush.

I thought lots of people had a mirena coil??

Hope you get it sorted though.

Original poster
mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 18:13

lots of people have the mirena but most have it put in at the doctors of FPC.
I could have this done awake, but am having a GA due to my PTSD

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ChoChoSan · 14/10/2010 18:16

My hysteroscopy was fine Mosschops, with no after effects following the procedure. I had a GA, which I had been apprehensive about, but it was laaarvely! Grin

bellavita · 14/10/2010 18:22

Hi Mosschops, I hope they allow DH into the room with you.

Just wanted to say - and I did put a call out for you but you obviously didn't see the thread, I bought that lovely Penny's Party dress on your recommendation - first shop I went into and I saw it and fell in love with it - am so happy with myself over the purchase!! Just wanted to say thanks for the link (which you did on someone elses thread who was looking for a dress).

Hulababy · 14/10/2010 18:28

mosschops - a little tender for a day or so, but not bad. I did have some cramps but again not too bad. I was having mine partly to stop severe monthly pain, so the cramps were much milder in comparison. TBH my worst complaint was the sore thoat, esp after the second one. I had a tube down though which caused the problem I think.

Original poster
mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 20:41

chocho my anaesthetist friend said the same that the GA will be lovely Grin

thanks for that hula

bellavita i missed your thread, was it the french connection dress? I love it, timeless can wear again and again Smile

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bellavita · 14/10/2010 20:44

Yes it is the French Connection dress, I bought it in black Smile

Haliborange · 14/10/2010 20:48

Mosschops - I had a hysteroscopy early last year and actually it was one of the easier medical things I have had done.

I was first on at 8am or so, it was private so the anaesthetist was a consultant and basically I lay down and was out inside a minute (including them putting in the IV). The "op" took less than 20 minutes and I woke up feeling amazing. I don't know what it was about that anaesthetic but it was the best one I ever had. No pain afterwards, because they didn't need to cut (they'd thought I had some sort of mass in there but when they operated everything looked fine). I had a tiny bit of spotting and that was it. I was intubated which did make me a bit sore but after a cup of tea it was soothed.

Good luck with it - hope it goes as smoothly as mine did.

Needanewname · 14/10/2010 20:55

Hi Mosschops

Without wanting to out myself on here, a few years ago I had a to have a ga when heavily pregnant. Procedure was done early in the morning and DH only just got to the hospital in time, (was kept in the night before) I was very distressed and upset, they gowned DH up and sent him in to help calm me for the GA.

This was an NHS hospital and I am so grateful they let him in, (even now 7 years later) I get teary thinking about it.

I hope they let him in for you and ignore all those people telling you to get a grip, they don;t know you or your circumstances and are not able to comment.

Good luck

AuntiePickleBottom · 14/10/2010 21:07

i hope ypur oh os allowed in, if it makes you more relaxed then it's got to be a good thing.

sometimes a patient can get so worked up, there blood pressure can raise and sometimes they are given a mild sedative before going into the room.

to me it makes more sense to have a partner than all the added stress and worries

fuschiagroan · 14/10/2010 21:08

I think they probably will let you. Nurses and junior doctors will tend to stick by the line when talking to patients, but if the consultant said it will be OK then I'm sure it will be.

expatinscotland · 14/10/2010 21:09

I was thinking would it be possible to have it done under epidural and so then you wouldn't need to be asleep?

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mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 21:23

Yes I did suggest epidural and spinal but consultant felt ga wud b better.

haliborange what a great post thank you for really putting my mind at rest

Thanks to evryone else who's posted positive thingr and seen that I'm not bein precious

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mosschops30 · 14/10/2010 21:23

Yes I did suggest epidural and spinal but consultant felt ga wud b better.

haliborange what a great post thank you for really putting my mind at rest

Thanks to evryone else who's posted positive thingr and seen that I'm not bein precious

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expatinscotland · 14/10/2010 21:37

I'd be wary of that, tbh.

Sounds like he/she just doesn't want to be bothered with a patient who might be awake.

It's not like you'll be able to move under spinal, for example, so won't impede the procedure.

melikalikimaka · 14/10/2010 21:44

I can sympathise with you, but it will be over in no time. Just let him drop you off, and let him pick you up. I was in such a state, the anesatist {whoops} asked me what I was worried about, 'dying?', I blubbed yes. He chuckled at me and I really felt reassured, then I asked for something to relax me. Within 5 mins, 2 little tablets came. I felt wonderful, even happy to be having my little operation! Good luck.