good friend or just a cow?

[wouldliketoknow]

i had a friend, you could say she was my best friend, she wasn't ecstatics when i fall pregnant, but she had her reasons, nothing to do with me... still good friends, when i was seven months pregnant she started to call to meet and then cancel on me, in a few weeks all went quiet never heard of her again... my baby is now 5 months old and she reappeared on facebook, she is in the states working and alone, no dh, and wants to resume the friendship as nothing had happened, but refuses to tell me anything about why she is in the states alone, what happened with her dh or anything, she wants me to go out of my way to talk to her, e.g. she gave me her home number in the states so i can call her but she hadn't call me, not now, nor when i had the baby, not even a card or a little present. i feel curious about what happened... should i just say stuff it and good ridance?

she is in my hometown, now, i have called her, i tried to meet with her or visit her, she has no time for me, she said she is too busy seeing other people.
i was willing to give her a chancce, go out for a coffee and start a fresh again, but... besides not being working and living 10 min away from me, she has no time...
so, it is def a dumping, well, i'll just don't pest her anymore, in the few weeks she has been back in the uk, i have called her twice, send her a few text, she has no job, but she is 'too busy' to see me, so i assume, she doesn't want to. i'll just wait till she calls me, and then i will think if i want to see her, but honestly i doubt she will call.

Does she have fertility issues? Might it be too painful seeing you with your lovely baby?

she has a child who hasn't lived with her since 2 yo and her new husband doesn't want children.

another friend fall pregnant at the same time i did and lost her baby, it certainly is painful for her, but we remain friends,
i don't think she can go through life avoiding babies, and if she considers that a reason to break a good long friendship, well, that is just stupid, unless she has another reason she is not telling, she is just a cow, i reached out to her more times that i should have to, she wants to see me she knows where i live...

No, but that kind of thing can make you irrational. It sounds to me like it might be an ongoing issue with her H and very raw still. Why doesn't her 2yo live with her?

Sorry, just realised child is older than 2!

he is about 10 now, being cared for by other family members, long sad story...

what i mean is i would understand if she explained and make a bit of an effort, but i am guessing that might be the reason, because she just doesn't say....

maybe i am just too middle age to compete with single twenty something new friends