to be bothered?

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Sex life has gone down the drain :( Used to be almost daily and over the last 3 years its become once every 6 weeks or so.

Not using contraception - was leaving it to fate, but that's about to change in case thats a factor in his reluctance. Joint decision to let fate rule I must add.
Also making a huge effort to lose weight in case thats the trouble.

But he just isnt interested and isn't particularly worried about it.
I think he may be depressed or stressed and have raised the subject but he doesnt think so.

Feeling sad

It makes me sad reading this as for the last year or so I'm in this position but that of your DH not yours. I just haven't felt like it at all and there have been spaces of 6 weeks or so. (not including the last 6 weeks while he has been working nights). I always had a good sex drive and we had a fantasti sex life so I don;t know what happened, but it just doesn't bother me anymore. Could this be the case with your DH? If he says he doesn't know, he's probably telling the truth. Sorry I can't be more help :(

I think he is telling the truth - but don't understand why he isnt bothered enough to get it fixed :(

I am sorry you have a similar situation - could you be suffering from stress or depression?

oh sorry name changed

Would you be able to get him to talk to relationship counsellor, or GP? Do you think he is genuinely not bothered or just covering up?

I think he is going to make a GP appointment for half term. And I think he really isn't bothered - but that bothers me

Are you close in other ways?

Holding hands? Kissing? telling each other we love each other?

Yes absolutely

so what happens if you approach him ? does he push you away/say no....

He is just unresponsive