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AIBU?

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To want to tell my friend of 15 years to bugger off

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excitedmummy2be · 14/10/2010 05:10

I was best friends with her for years but as we have got older we have got different interests and friends and drifted slightly. None the less we remained good friends. In the last 2 years she has annoyed me so much with her selfish attitude. She left my wedding before the speeches after spending the entire time texting... She denies leaving early but I know she did... Other friends told me. I had a miscarriage shortly after,she never came to see me. We both got pregnant and are due at around the same time. She has never come to visit me... I've been to see her. She rings if she has a problem and I give her my undivided attention and hold her hand til the issue is resolved. I've had a few minor issues with my pregnancy... She doesn't even ask how I am or how things went with the doc. She is so selfish it drives me nuts... I feel I get nothing from this friendship anymore. I've tried not calling but she always ends up ringing asking I'd there's a problem. I've tried to tactfully explain how I feel and she says sorry but continues being a selfish cow. AIBU? What would you do?

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sunnydelight · 14/10/2010 05:15

Your options are basically confront or hide. She doesn't sound worth confronting tbh, you get nothing but grief from this relationship so get caller id and don't take her calls again.

Rebeccash · 14/10/2010 07:13

I just ditched a friend like this. I found confrontation fruitless as she is so un-self-aware (if thats a word) so have just stopped answering her calls/texts. I have seen her in my local town a couple of times but have made it obvious I am in a rush (fortunately I genuinely was) and didn't stop to chat. She still calls now and again and I still don't pick up. She will get the hint if you do it for long enough!

specialsmasher · 14/10/2010 07:15

This kind of behaviour is very hurtful, and I would imagine that confronting won't change her fundamentally selfish attitude.

If she only cares about herself, then this friendship will just make you miserable - ditch, I'm afraid...

GeekOfTheWeek · 14/10/2010 09:38

Ditch her.

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