To think MIL could have just used the telephone?

[RunawayPumpkin]

Ok bit of back ground

DH1 and I are separated, we have 2 wonderful sons and were together 25 years and we really do still like each other,Live 5 mins apart and see each other most days due to the children spend time as a family (sometimes with my new DP sometimes not) there has never been any nastiness between us, sadly we grew apart and are better as friends.

DH1s mother moved to Devon when his dad died 8 years ago to live near her daughter (she has 2 daughters and 2 sons) from the moment her daughter moved to Devon 10 years before, MIL would spend 2 hours every Sunday on the phone to her checking on the kids and so on, since MIL moved to Devon DH1 has been lucky to get a call once a year, The daughter in Devon is a bitch manipulative bully and when DS1 was diagnosed SN she said we should have drown him at birth!!! (as you can see lovely woman!) So we no longer have anything to do with her,
So we had DH1s family as facebook friends all except the sister, I used to email MIL every week and let her know how the boys were and so on, then one day I found the whole family had blocked me, turns out this was the sisters doing and I was not bothered by it but DH1 was and he blocked all of them and life went on. (this was about 2 years ago)
May I point out that DH1 might look at his FB page once a week if that.
So DH1s birthday last week and my sister comes out with us for a birthday meal and says that MIL (who is on my sisters FB ) has been posting on my sisters wall (and a few others) that she is unhappy I have stopped he wishing her son a happy birthday on facebook Seems the sister has also joined in the bitching!
I did not block her, I did not tell DH1 to block her, and TBH she is 72 FFS and behaving like a 15 year old.
I met up with DH1s cousins today (we are still good friends) and she has been bitching to them as well.

So point is AIBU to think that if she really wanted to wish her son a happy birthday she could have emailed him, phoned, him or sent him a card but instead wants to be a victim and behave like a teenager on a network site.

Wow I must be really powerful if they are so bothered by the fact they think I have managed to stop them putting a message on a webpage DH1 would not have looked at anyway.
Sorry that was long....stands in corner and awaits flaming

What a Cow not to send her own son a card
her and sil seem to want you to look bad no matter what

I have given up caring what they think TBH they are the ones missing out on the children and DH1 not me.

Facebook is for teens......avoid it altogether. It is up to your ex DH to sort out his mother.

Main reason for having FB is keeping in touch with family across seas

As you are no longer with DH1, I think you can ignore all the siblings and his mother, though I appreciate you are annoyed with them. But ultimately, this issue is between DH1 and them. I feel it is up to him to tell them how stupid they are being. Do your sons care very much about their aunts, uncles and grandmother, or not? Because I wouldn't want them to have to put up with this kind of crap. At least the cousins know the truth and aren't swayed by the lies that are being spread. I would stop all contact with MIL, and then when she realises she has lost her grandsons she might think again. If you don't rise to their childish behaviour they will all get bored.

DS1 is 14 and he refuses point blank to have anything to do with them, he refused to go to MILs 70th birthday despite me telling him he should go and even offering to pay him £20 to go.

DS2 is 10 and is not really bothered by it.

The dynamics in DH1s family was always odd he has a half sister (same mum) then his sister then him then his brother, the sister and half sister hate each other, the sister is always causing trouble between the brother and the half sister and their various children copy their parents. I often think DH1 must have been adopted as he is the only normal/nice one of the lot.
The cousins (MILs nieces)are lovely, and understand as DH1s sister has been really evil to them also. I just wonder what in life has made her so nasty as she is only happy when causing trouble for someone else, and sadly her DDs are the exact same.

I have never allowed myself to be bullied by the sister and I think the fact I have always stood up to her is the main reason she does not like me, I could turn your hair white with some of the things she has done, and she is heading towards 50 but behaves like 15 in a school play ground.

I am a bit sad for MIL missing out on the boys, and for them missing out on DH1s family, but I can honestly say hand on heart I have never and would never try to turn my boys against DH1s family.

Nothing to add on you situation with the family, it's up to your exh to deal with them as a previous poster said, but I just wanted to say that your family dynamic with your exh really gives me hope. Dh and I have grown apart lived more like friends for the past few years and I'd love to keep the friendship and no hard feelings when/if we do go our separate ways.

It can be done