Dd is 5 months old. MIL has always been a bit odd but has been a bit of a pain since dd was born: very openly critical of some of our choices (we're not doing anything massively weird -just feeding on demand etc); treating dh as though he's about 6 and spending huge amounts of time complaining about her own childhood and early motherhood ('i never had any support' - the inference being that dh shouldn't be supporting me).
This is all fine - I feel a little bit sorry for her - she's clearly unhappy and most of it seems defensive. The one thing that does piss me off is that she hasn't bought dd any kind of gift despite being well off (not a bib, not a pair of socks) but I can see that that's my problem and that gifts aren't something I or dd have a right to expect.
I have said to dh that we need to try to get on a bit better and invite her up more often as dd will love her gps unconditionally and will need us all to get along. I said this to a family friend who is a gp the other day and she said it was bollocks and we shouldn't try too hard.
So if I want dd to be as secure as possible with her family are there any golden rules? Is there anything up with which I should not put? Or is it best to be entirely laissez-faire? Should we invite them as often as possible (some risk to dh's sanity)? Or AIBU to hope that you can have a great relationship with a gp who is an irritant to everyone else?