AIBU to think it is unacceptable to ask one niece and not the other?

[keelybooboo]

My brother is getting married next yr and his girlfriend has asked my other brothers dd 7 to be bridesmaid but not my dd 14.

Its def final decision as dresses have been bought for all the bridesmaids.

AIBU to think that she is a selfish cow not to think how this would make me and my dd feel or am i supposed to just put up and keep my mouth shut?

We are all invited to the wedding and i am really worried that my dd is going to sit there thinking - why did they ask my cousin and not me, he's my uncle too.....

please give me some honest advise, its so hard when you feel wronged over something to do with your kids isnt it?

It really sounds like she wants a flower girl in addition to her adult friends as bridesmaids. TBH it wouldn't even occur to me to have a 14 year old in a wedding party, unless she were my daughter!

to be honest, I always find this 'their wedding' thing very odd. It's almost like the table decorations and such like are more important that the becoming part of one another's families.

Still, no matter how you feel, go down the 'lucky escape' route with your DD. It almost certainly will be.

when I got married I managed to really upset a cousin by not asking her to be a bridesmaid - I'd asked just her older sister and my dh's god daughter.

On the one hand I wouldh have loved all my cousins to be bridesmaids (all 4 of them) but dh has lots of brothers and sisters, all of them had lots of kids, all the sis were expecting their dd's to be the bridesmaids and I didn't really know any of them.

In the end it was much easier to just have 2 - I really didn't want to be trooping down the aisle with 11 little girls following, just so as not to hurt anyone's feelings!

YABU, I chose my best friend then the youngest children on both sides plus a pageboy.

Would have had 12 bridesmaids else.

It is totally normal to only have the younger children.

Perhaps other niece's mum is not as nice as you and has thrown a royal strop and younger niece has been begrudgingly admitted to wedding party. You wouldn't dream of being so pushy would you?

I can't think of a single 14 year old who would want to be a bridesmaid I mean OMG how, like, humiliating?

YABU. Most 14 year olds would not want to be a bridesmaid. Also it's thier weding and their decision. They probably wanted a flower girl

I ended up with 4 young bridesmaids when I only wanted one. I asked my sister if her youngest daughter wanted to be BM, she then had a little strop about older daughter, asked her herself if she wanted to be BM, then told me she'd asked her and she'd said yes. Then I had to have the other nieces as well to make it fair... Let them do what they want. She'll get a lovely dress regardless.

YABU. But then I would say that as my DD is going to be my cousin's flower girl but my niece who will be the same age will not be in the wedding. My sister doesn't seem fussed at all, neither is my neice. But then she's 2 so wont really care.