to hate peoples unconcious working-women bashing?

[frgr]

.. i'm fed up with this, i really am. I mean, i presume most women on here would be supportive of a woman's right to work after kids, with a few exceptions maybe

but in the last week i've discussed with 2 people who've described really stupid things regarding a woman's right to work or have leisure time. example:

last week my FIL (never has quite udnerstood why H and I do 3 days each per week, so we get slightly more than 1 income but both involved in upbringing) said, I don't know where you get the time to go to the gym

my H has his hobbies (he's into tennis big time), so why wouldn't i "have time" to go to the gym? i only go twice a week, once before i go to work and once in the evening

and then, last night, my best friend (SAHM of 1, FT) said that she woudn't cope going back to work with the house and that she hardly gets any "her" tiem as it is. i'm trying to be supportive to her with rpactical help on how to set boudaries (her H is helpful, just a bit head in the clouds sometimes)... but really, this shocked me, since she's someone who would definitely agree that in THEORY housework / childcare should be shared if people work equally.

AIBU????

Well do you know what? I wonder how I manage to fit it all in. I think I must be bloody Superwoman I am quite proud of my achievements TBH.I have spent a lot of years feeling vaguely guilty about not being a 'real' mother, and not being committed employee. But as it happens I think I do pretty damned well. I haven't been sacked and my DC haven't run away yet!

Unconscious working?

Where do I apply? I'd be good at that. I've lots of experience.

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I don't think both parentsworking part-time is terribly unusual. I work three short days , my husband works two nights. He relishes it and in some ways has an easier relationship. But Oliver James would crticize me forchoosing father, who is second down the list in the caret hierarchy.

Apple. Typing, crappy phone

We're planning on doing it too in a few years. I'll be SAHM until then quite probably, then we'll reassess and if poss DH will go part-time so he can have more time at home with DC.

I am soooo glad I hid that thread after my bingo comment - I knew exactly where it was going :o

It's tiresome, it's dull and I am fed up of people telling me I'm brave/special/wonder woman for having a child and a job. Sorry if that sounds ungrateful but it feels a teeny bit patronising.