to not care that I've put on weight?

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I should so. I spent years fretting and worrying about it. I've dieted and exercised and managed to get down to a BMI of just under 21. I lost most of all when I was suffering from anxiety and developed a wheat intolerance. Amazing weight-loss strategy, when everything you eat goes through you in about 10 mins flat

But since I haven't been able to run as much, and been on anti-Ds and starting the menopause, I've piled it on. I now can't get into my jeans anymore - I actually can't do them up. I'm not delighted about it but I simply don't give a stuff. And I am delighted that I don't give stuff

Is that odd? My life seems so much richer and happier and the fact that my waist is wider and my hips a little less bony doesn't seem to be in the slightest bit important. It's as if I've given myself permission to chill out.

I should do that was meant to be.

Good for you

Yanbu, life's too short to worry about things like that too much.

cheers riven! But I've got enough of them

Assuming you are now better-padded rather than can't-leave-the-bed then YANBU at all :)

YADNBU - it is very liberating to finally accept and like the way you are. My weight has ruled most of my life and I spent 10 years suffering from anorexia/bulimia to the point of nearly killing myself. Although I have now been generally slim and healthy for the past 20 years - I have put on about 10 pounds during the menopause - but strangely it doesn't seem to bother me anymore.

No, I think I don't need a winch for the bath

I'm a 14 instead of a 12 and at 5'11 it's not that bad.

" but strangely it doesn't seem to bother me anymore"

Odd isn't it? Odd but wonderful.

I recommend it riven, but I don't know how it is acheived. Hoping it lasts.

I'd feel exactly the same if it wasn't for my mother's little comments along the lines of "you're fat now" or "where's my slim daughter gone?".

Nice

Actually my mother is the only fly in the ointment. Not for her comments (she tells me that I look 'healthy' now ) but she piled on weight after the menopause and is now quite overweight which does her no good health-wise. So whilst I don't mind being bigger, I will try not to get too much more so.

I think that so long as you haven't put on enough weight to be potentially unhealthy you are quite right not to give a shit! Good for you!!!

Not yet!

But actually as I said in my last post I am conscious that mum put on loads when she went through the menopause - so whilst I am OK as I am I don't want to carry on putting weight on.

congratulations - sounds like a happy place you are in. Enjoy!