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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Or just a little bit cruel?

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asdx2 · 10/10/2010 16:09

Dh got up just before 2pm anyway must have sensed I wasn't impressed and so he decided that he must be feeling poorly.More likely he saw my face especially as he didn't get up until almost 1pm yesterday.So this morning besides doing the usual chores and seeing to the two kids with autism I have cooked a full roast that I was about to dish up. We always eat at 2pm.Said "oh well you won't want any roast then seeing as you are so poorly", thrust two paracetamol at him and sent him back to bed. He tried protesting that he'd try and eat it but I insisted that I wouldn't want him suffering by eating when he s ill.
The roast incidentally was lovely.

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ImSpartacus · 10/10/2010 16:10

YA-so-not-BU.

Firawla · 10/10/2010 16:11

yanbu!! although i think i would have just gone in to wake him up before that

AnakisT · 10/10/2010 16:12

Excellent YA-definatly-NBU

SecretNutellaFix · 10/10/2010 16:13

YANBU

Fantatstic!!!!

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asdx2 · 10/10/2010 16:15

I don't even think he was asleep because the eldest with ASD has been skipping up and down the landing and two others have had baths in the bathroom next door.Something he commented on when he came down.

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GeekOfTheWeek · 10/10/2010 16:23

Yanbu or cruel.

He is taking the piss and getting away with it though.

Avantia · 10/10/2010 16:26

I must try that one when DH has 'man flu' .
Brillant ! YANBU

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 10/10/2010 16:28

You did absolutely the right thing. It would be Very Bad for him Indeed to eat a full roast dinner if the poor love is poorly!

It's just the same as me sending ds3 to bed on Friday, when school sent him home sick, and I thought he looked perfectly healthy. Though you shouldn't have to do it for an adult.

Next time, maybe send the children in to wake him up - perhaps with water pistols, or some sort of noisy toy - I have a trumpet you could borrow.....

TheProvincialLady · 10/10/2010 16:29

Amusing this time yes, but in future just go and wake the lazy fecker up at a reasonable time. Why the hell would you let him sleep until 1pm? I would set fire to his bed long before that.

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asdx2 · 10/10/2010 16:29

I know Geek but just don't feel up to a barney this week because I've got stuff to sort out for the eldest with ASD and need to concentrate on that at the minute.
At least I got to deprive him of food

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HeathcliffMoorland · 10/10/2010 16:31

I'm genuinely not trying to be argumentative.

I'm just wondering whether or not you know for certain that he's not ill?

Not all problems affect appetite.

All the same, I am amused, and would happily try in it definite man-flu scenarios!

Hedgeblunder · 10/10/2010 16:31

Hahaha sooooo NBU!

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asdx2 · 10/10/2010 16:34

Well assumed not ill when he got up because he heard me getting ready to dish up.
He only became suddenly ill when he realised I wasn't amused and had he been ill he'd have come downstairs earlier to complain about the noise get a thermometer and paracetamol.

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HeathcliffMoorland · 10/10/2010 16:35

Ah right.

I'd have called my DH hours before that. I think you're very tolerant to let him sleep.

LoveBeingAMardyBum · 10/10/2010 16:39

Well deserved just make sure next sat morning you kick him out of bed and stay there all day

KaraStarbuckThrace · 10/10/2010 16:47

I would have yanked him out of bed hours ago.

FFS he has wasted half the weekend, the selfish bugger!

shimmerysilverghosty · 10/10/2010 16:51

Ooh can I have his share? I love roast dinners but on my own with two dc who wouldn't eat one to save their lives so no point cooking for one.

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asdx2 · 10/10/2010 16:54

Think he's taking advantage of the fact I am snowed under preparing stuff for a series of appointments regarding ds's future provision and health worries. I am not normally so meek so will be keeping a tally and lay into him when I've got ds sorted in a week or so.

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undercovamutha · 10/10/2010 16:55

My DH wouldn't have made it to 9am let alone 2pm, ill or not . I've been ill plenty of times, and I've certainly never had a 2pm lie-in! You are a very patient and understanding woman, and your DH should be very glad he's not married to me!!!

Well done for sticking to your guns!

BackgroundRacket · 10/10/2010 16:57

YABU. If you had a problem with him sleeping so late you should have woken him up.

mumbar · 10/10/2010 16:59

NBU, my ex-p was just the same and I was the idiot who would serve it up and then seethe quietly whilst he sat on sofa eating it infront of the TV.

SixtyFootDoll · 10/10/2010 17:03

If you werent happy with him sleeping so late you should have done something about it.

needafootmassage · 10/10/2010 17:07

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SixtyFootDoll · 10/10/2010 17:08

AT the time should have done something.
Woken him up, told him that she wasnt happy about him sleeping so late?

Goblinchild · 10/10/2010 17:13

I'm a one-woman band when it comes to all the ASD stuff too, so I do understand why an out-and-out confrontation might not have appealed ATM. Saving your strength for the main fight. So, you'll find out if he got the message next time he has the opportunity for a lie-in.

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