to want to be single forever?

[macdoodle]

I am almost 40 have 2 amazing DD's, a nice house, good friends, lovely family, a good job that I love.
I have just ended a almost 2 yr relationship with a nice guy who was just too needy with no spark.
Before that I was with my nasty abusive XH for 10years. I haven't been truly single since I was about 25.

I have no desire whatsover to let someone else into my life, I am happy with my girls.
I have a rabbit

So am I, am I ???

I dont know are you?
can you hold hands with a rabbit while you are watching a soppy movie with a bottle of wine?

Its your choice

I don't see anything strange in what you've said. I was married for nearly 27 years and nothing would induce me to get married or cohabit again.

Get a cat too and then you can stroke it whilst watching a film with a glass of wine.
I don't think YABU.

YANBU at all

I have a cat
I have vodka and coke
I have my lovely DD1 (9) watching X factor with me

I'm happy

No, you are not being unreasonable. The gift of being secure and happy in your own company, without feeling lonely or sexually and emotionally incomplete is a wonderful thing, which is all too rare. If you meet someone lovely with spark along the way that'll be great too. Enjoy life to the full, either way.:)

Perfect!

Good for you
YANBU

YANBU, sounds good to me.

Can't imagine ever living with somebody again. I like having my own space and can't imagine someone else interfering with that.

I can honestly say that its a long time since I could say I feel happy and content with my life, and I think that coincides with being manless!

YADefinitelyNBU - I've had two abusive relationships and cannot imagine being in a 'normal' one. I honestly think I'd find it too difficult to cope with - I know that must sound very strange but I'm so used to giving so much that I'd feel smothered if someone treated me considerately.

Yes, I miss some aspects of being half of a couple - it's hard work running a house and looking after family, but on balance, I'm happier alone. And there's a great amount of satisfaction in being able to support myself.

DS is allowed, obv. But no-one else :)

It is not unreasonable for you to feel like this for for a while after what you have been through esp. if you have not been single since you were 25.

You will soon start to feel that need to share all the lovely things in life with someone special and have a companion to grow old with. And when you do, or maybe even before then, i hope you find him and live happily ever after.

God, i am such a soppy git!!

thank you mylittlemonkey, that would be nice, but I reckon I could be happy without him too

YANBU.

However, don't beat yourself up if in future you change your mind :)

Good for you, macdoogle.
I'm 51, been happily single for four years. Thought I'd start looking for a nice old codger when I'm about 60.

Then again, may be not...

I don't think YABU,.. and I'm actually jealous!!:D

Oh YANBU!

YANBU

If dh and I split, or he died, I don't think I'd want t take on another child man

I would want to become a 'Cougar' like the single, very slightly older women in the US.

Enjoy - and if you change your mind - enjoy too...

Not unreasonable to enjoy being single for a few years at all, unreasonable to think you have to take a life-time's decision before you are 40! See who turns up, if they are nice, revise decision, if they are just meh or downright horrible, stick with it. Both my grannies were proposed to in their seventies (one did get remarried, the other didn't) so you may have a few decades in which to reconsider.

nothing to do with abusive Ex's as mine were hopeless but not abusive. Still at 45 with DS and two cats I feel very lucky and quite content with my life.