to think this is so childish and uncalled for??

[luvsgonzo]

Hi

We have dp's 2 oldest children every saturday for the day at my house and for the past 3 weeks he has beein doing stuff with his ds but not dd i have pulled him up about this before but today when he did it again i blew up and told him he was being totally unfair on his dd wouldnt normally do this while they were here but i'm unwell today with a short fuse anyway he asked if she wanted to help make tea as we know she likes to help cook and stuff and dp made a snidy comment top his dd of well apparently i don't no enough stuff with you i was horrified as that was bringing her into mine and his dissagreement (sp)this led him to have a chat with his dd and she did admit to him she does feel upset when he does things with her brother and not her that got sorted but i'm still mad over the comment he made to her regarding mine and his dissagreement i think it's a childish thing to do and totally uncalled for as it was obvious when he did it it made her feel uncormfotably
AIBU??

He's being an arse IMO.

Bet she now feels he's only doing it because he has been told to.

Nope.

But he is.

But at least his daughter was able to say that yes, it hurts her and hopefully things will change now.

And you were right and he knows you were right.

and his daughter knows that you care enough to be cross with him on her behalf.

You came out of this smelling of roses.

You won this one.

YANBU. Your poor DSD, her dad shouldn't be saying that to her at all.

Hi
Thanks for your replies i sat him down and tried to explain things again and i even told him i wasn't telling him how to raise his children but i was trying to help and that i hoped if he could see a problem with how i was dealing with mine that i hoped he'd step in with some advice for me hopefully that will be the end of it now and he's even said when he goes to pick them up he is going to ask what she would like to do
on their way back and i didn't even have to suggest this thanks again :)