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sigh RSVPs (again)

18 replies

dilemma456 · 09/10/2010 09:06

DD's birthday party is next weekend. The invites went out 10 days ago and I've had 5 replies out of 21 invites.

I know there's still another week but its just so frustrating. Keep panicing very few people will turn up after all the effort and dd being so excited.

AIBU if I send reminder notes out on Wednesday to those who've not responded or am I going to come across as sad and desperate?

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thisisyesterday · 09/10/2010 09:07

i think notes is OTT, but i WOULD either talk to them, or ring them and ask.

SeaTrek · 09/10/2010 09:08

No, you won't. You need to know. I would send out a reminder note on Wednesday.

PosieParker · 09/10/2010 09:08

We send reminder emails!!

Bucharest · 09/10/2010 09:09

I bet you get more than you imagine. Dd's was last Saturday and not one child out of 23 in her class RSVPd. 21 turned up!

SeaTrek · 09/10/2010 09:09

I see thwat you mean thisisyesterday - I assumed that OP referred to a note because she wouldn't be seeing them/have contact info (in bags at nursery?).

Original poster
dilemma456 · 09/10/2010 09:09

trouble is I don't see lots of them. I drop dd off and go to work. I know some of them but by no means all

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ben5 · 09/10/2010 09:11

phone or put another note out.

HowToShoutSoHusbandsWillListen · 09/10/2010 09:12

I received a note for a party DD had been invited to. Was very pleased as I hadn't received the original invite (via nursery bag) and immediately phoned to accept and apologise.

salizchap · 09/10/2010 09:14

My ds's notes an invites often don't reach me. I think he has a house elf who hides them. A follow up note is a very good idea.

Acekicker · 09/10/2010 10:41

Did you say when you wanted RSVPs by? I'm much better at replying to ones that ask for a response by a certain date, ones that don't ask for one get shoved in a pile of post etc and done when I finally remember they're there. Did you ask for written/email/phone replies - I'm much better at banging out a mail late at night/early in the morning than writing a reply or calling someone...

As someone who is pretty slack at replying to things, I wouldn't take offence at a reminder provided it's done in a 'low-key' way that doesn't make me feel like an even worse parent...Something along the lines of 'sorry for chasing, I know you're really busy but we want to make sure we have enough food/can give final numbers etc, could you let me know' and give them the txt/email options.

Sweetcheesus · 09/10/2010 10:47

Ask the parents.
I never see invitations - ds hides them, dd hoards them.
I imagine the same would go for a reminder note.

Manda25 · 09/10/2010 11:14

Cor I think i was lucky !! DS 8th Birthday today and finally got the last reply this morning LOL ... I never do parties where numbers matter ...because of this reason !

thisisyesterday · 09/10/2010 12:40

ahh yeh, i guess if you don't see them then a note would be ok

CaptainNancy · 09/10/2010 19:48

I think many people don't know what "RSVP" means these days... I am going to put "Please let me know by..." next time DD has a party.

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dilemma456 · 10/10/2010 09:36

Just had one more acceptance via text. Ah well its not until next Saturday, i'm just being impatient I suppose

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GiddyPickle · 10/10/2010 10:08

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Bloodymary · 10/10/2010 10:32

I find it bizzare/sad if people really do not know the meaning of RSVP.

mangoandlime · 10/10/2010 10:38

Perhaps a little impatient. I don't think people mean to be rude, I just think we all have so much on nowadays that if you're anything like me you'll pin it up on the noticeboard then four days before think 'shit' and make a quick phone call!

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