to think that the normal, sane response

[playgroundwoes]

to your year one child saying "emma has been mean to me"; "charlie wont play with me", "fred scared me" is to say "nevermind dear now off you go and play".

I'm not talking about children bullying, I am talking about a child that whinges about everything and expects mum to fight the smallest of battles on her behalf and a mum that thinks nothing of berrating 5 year olds who she perceives to have upset her precious DD.

It is driving me maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad.

And yes I have namechanged, just in case.

I know a few of those mothers.

Funnily enough they never seem to berate their own children for similar bad behaviour

YANBU - if my ds ever tries this on my stock response is 'tough - life isn't fair - get on with it' .

Yanbu but I'd also be registering said one year old with mensa

Year one. Sorry i'm a dick

lol nagoo

The mum is in my face all the time about some perceived slight towards her DD, I try to brush it off but she is like a dog with a bone. I have apologised on behalf of my DC's and if they have actually done something I do of course make them apologise but more often than not her DC makes things up because she simply does not get her own way and her mum massively over indulges her tears.

I am under no illusion that my DC's are angelic but they are normal they argue and my DS1 does fight a bit but he is 4 I kind of think it is to be expected (although I try not to tolerate it) but the constant implication that my DC are ferral savages who need to be better behaved is wearing in the extreme....

nagoo

The Op said year one, not one year.

Have you tried saying nevermind dear now off you go and play to her

Train yourself to answer her duaghter before she does with "Stay away from him/her if you don't like their behavior"

lovebeing funny you should say that, tis in part why I am exasperated today.

Ds (reception) is playing with a friend right in front of me. Girl comes over is bugging them a bit poking and prodding them "can I play" and gets ignored. A propos of nothing child bursts into tears and tells me "littlewoe was mean to me". This not being the first time this sort of thing has happened I said "no he isn't, don't make up stories"

Child runs off to mum who comes stomping across saying in loud voice "lets talk to playgroundwoes about it" and tells me that her DC says my DC hit her. I snap that he did not to which she replies "well you know what he is like"

You are great, PGW. I get emotionally tied up in knots feeling bad about the nasty things people end up saying about DC. Gossip comes back to me (things DC did months earlier and already apoligised for (!!!) get thrown back in my face) or I connect the dots about what gossip has been said and how that explains strange things subsequently said or done . I REALLY need to grow a thicker skin.

just stay away from them. Daughter has learned to be a tattle tale tithead because mother is an over-reactionary fruitloop.

Colditz. Excellent wording.

I know a couple of these. When my DD runs to me 'xxxx hit meeeeeeeeee Mummy' I usually say 'Oh, really, and what did YOU do?'

That woman is in for some trouble in the future.

A child at my DS primary school was like this, now at secondary school his mum is still trying to manage his life for him but he has failed to integrate with other kids and he can't understand why. his mother still thinks he is being bullied. the child is not happy and cant understand why the teachers wont make the other kids be friends with him basically primary school kids can be made to play with the unpopular ones but secondary school kids just wont do it

so basically comfort your self with the knowledge that that sort of parenting ultimately back fires and produces unpopular children, nobody likes a tell tale.

although really i feel sorry for the kid because he is quite bright and wants some friends but no one wants to take the risk of offending his mum,so they steer clear.

it depends if it always just her child that the others are being unkind to?

YA totally not BU. I am a teacher and if all parents had your attitude my life would be so so much easier.

From reception to year 3 there are certain kids that spend about 95% of their time telling on others and I think this is because they are so indulged at home and expect adults to sort everything out for them (despite the fact that there are 29 other kids to be dealt with). Also, they know that at home telling is a way of getting attention and kids that age absolutely crave the teacher's attention. Now, I do absolutely encourage children to privately tell me about real issues they are having, and they do this too and get a serious response from me. It's the "Johnny has a rubber in his hand ()/Peter touched my book (sigh)/Jane is sitting too close to me ()"- style constant whinging that gets on my nerves. I think parents should totally discourage this kind of wheedling, immature nonsense because apart from anything else it makes those children very unpopular with the rest of the class who are just as annoyed at their constant moaning and gestapo-like monitoring of other children's behaviour.

BTW those moaners are themselves usually the ones who create the most real disruption in the class!

Colditz

brassband DC1's class is a really nice class - there don't seem to be any particular groups, everyone plays with everyone else but TBH her DC does probably gets more unkindness than most.

I hate myself for thinking it of a 5 year old - but she is difficult: She doesn't share, demands everything her own way and tells tales which the other children have really started to note. All her mothers fault of course

If I could avoid I would but it's hard and mum is like a heat seeking missile where my youngest and criticism is concerned.