Our neighbour is a gossip and generally Im annoyed advice please?

[ilikewine]

Lived here for a while never had a problem,neighbours moved in seem nice enough untill we have had a fall out now she is getting the neighbours involved who were talking to us and now are not.

I can handle that,but the other night our dc's were poorly so was in their room looking after them as they had tempatures,had the window open and the neighbours had friends over drinking etc in the garden,no problem but it went on till nearl 3am in the morning.

I ended up slamming the window as I had enough from them quite loud and being inconsiderate,recently they were saying loudly for us to hear ,dont amke to much noise they will report us.

I snapped and said if you have a problem come and talk about it,but stop talking to all our neighbours and grow up.

We have been so patient about them and could of complained to the housing along time ago but I feel it better to talk directly and work out any problems,now im not so sure?.

Should I just ignore them as little things have started to happen and its annoying me.

Please advise?

Say hi in a bright and pleasant way when you next see them....unless some real nastiness has gone on these things are not worth the bother. You need to be on good terms with your neighbours or it can really affect your quality of life.

If it's general bithing just stay friendly and keep to yourself...but dont engage in sniping or gossip. Better to smile and say hello to one another even if you KNOW she is bitching behind your back.

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Rather than confronting on a regular basis, perhaps you could just plan to give a couple of weeks that you will not comment on their behaviour or give any type of negative reaction to see if any potential escalation will die down.

Within that two week period, keep a diary of events if they do anything that you would consider unreasonable.

If they turn out to be trouble makers you may be able to use it as evidence later. You can use your diary as a "vent" without creating a worse situation.

If you are all tenants of a housing association or otherwise, there will be clauses in the agreement about nuisance behaviour which they will be in breach of.

But for now, be all sweetness and light.They really will be winning if you over-react.

Revenge is always best served cold, but hopefully you can all live in peace.

After 2 weeks if you are miserable from their thoughtlessness, try and sort it face to face amicably when you are NOT ANGRY. You could try to do a little research on successful ways to deal with conflict first. It could make all the difference.

Good luck