Nits - a rant about DH

[Lovecat]

Backstory - I have been involved in a play which has been taking up most of my evenings for the last 3 weeks. Consequently I haven't seen a lot of DD or DH.

DH takes DD (5) to school and I pick her up. DH gets her ready in the mornings as I have to leave the house at stupid o'clock in order to get out of work on time to pick her up. Part of the routine of getting her ready is to spray her head with Nitmix as a preventative measure - there seems to be a perennial nit problem at her school and we've found this is the only thing that keeps them at bay.

A fortnight ago I examined her head as she was itching and discovered she was riddled with nits. I mentioned this to DH, he confessed that he hadn't been spraying with Nitmix as 'it's a faff and she doesn't like it'.Grr. So I buy in quantities of Lyclear to deal with the immediate problem and ask him to apply it. It's the 10 minute stuff.

I take her swimming the following Sunday and she is STILL crawling with nits. He didn't do it. Too much hassle, apparently. I do it, and comb out with the nittygritty comb, remind DH that he will have to reapply it in 5 days to catch any eggs that I missed, ask him to make sure that he does spray her, as she hates being nitty far more than she hates the spray, and continue with the play.

Last night I picked her up and saw a great fat louse crawling over her head. She's riddled with them again. He hasn't f-ing well done it again, nor, on questioning DD, has he been spraying her head. Nor has he been bathing her (thank Christ she gets showered at her swimming lessons).

AIBU to imagine that if I were to go under a bus tomorrow poor DD would be lousy, filthy and stinking within a week? Gaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

Your husband is a knob and if i ever met him, i would tell him so!

OP, your DH sounds like a lazy arse who doesn't care about the family.

Why does he only do his own washing? Does he think his washing is more important than anyone else's washing????

You should tell him to go 50/50 on your joint child's care, or you will leave him to do it all on his own.

Although, it sounds like he's too obsessed with having his own way.

Can you go and stay at someone else's house for a month and see how he copes?

My post wasnt meant to be having ago, honest. I said this :

"Your DH is an idiot but if you know he is not to be relied upon then you need to make the time and do it.

In the meantime give him a checklist and make him tick things off as he does them if you arent happy."

And I stand by it. Not because I want to defend your DH, or stop you doing amdram, but just because whatever the argument the priority is to treat your DD obviously.

Your additional comments regarding his doing washing for himself etc, show bigger issues regarding his lack of consideration for the rest of the family, and they add some detail which makes the OP more understandable tbh.

At this point I would be considering how much/little effort he puts into the family generally and whether I wanted to live like that forever more. :(