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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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i know i am but i can't help it.

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booyhoo · 07/10/2010 15:53

my neighbour sets her infant carrier in the backseat sideways and doesn't buckle it. at first i thought maybe she doesn't know how to buckle it but i have seen her doing it when her partner is there. i pull my judgey pants up a bit when i see her doing it. go on, flame me.

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Firawla · 07/10/2010 15:57

sideways?! very strange, if its not buckled in whats the point of even being in the seat the whole thing could go flying...
maybe you can say something in a kind way not accusatory but just make it sound helpful,i think she does need to change the way she is doing it but would wonder why she does this in the first place as just seems bizare

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booyhoo · 07/10/2010 16:00

she's not the sort of person you would say anything to. i would get a mouthful for being an interfering so and so, lots of swearing. i think it's just laziness tbh, she just sets the seat in, whatever way it lands she leaves it and then she gets into the front and drives off. she must know it isn't safe because she does do it properly when her partner is there.

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AddictedIsFeelingHappy · 07/10/2010 16:06

are you sure it doesnt fit in sideways?

my parents have a jane one that goes with a pushchair and you can lie it flat and buccle it in sideways. its for newborn babies on long journeys, so you dont have to keep stopping. just a thought?

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booyhoo · 07/10/2010 16:10

no it's the normal one, my kitchen window faces her drive and i can see straight into the car. she opens the door, plonks the seat onto the backseat, pushes the door shut and then gets herself in and drives away. she doesn't do any leaning into teh car or fiddling with teh belt. she doesn't touch the belt. it is literally how you would set you handbag on the backseat.

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Scout19075 · 07/10/2010 16:17

Could she have an Isofix base? We had one, so all we would have to do is get BabyScout into his carseat in the house, open the car door and "pop" him in. The carseat fit snuggly into the base, there was no bending/faffing with a seatbelt and he wasn't going anywhere!

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booyhoo · 07/10/2010 16:25

no, there is nothing on the seat of the car and again, she just sets it in sideways, any isofix bases i have seen require the seat to be facing bacwards (infant carriers anyway, which this is, the baby is only 3 weeks old)

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Anenome · 07/10/2010 16:30

Report her. I would. How much regret will you have if something awful happened? She won't know it was you...tell the police next time she des it...explain it's a neighbour so you don't want them telling her she was reported by a local when they pull her over. It's your duty.

Bloodymary · 07/10/2010 16:32

I wouldnt often advise reporting anyone, but in this case I am afraid that I would.

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booyhoo · 07/10/2010 16:34

really, would the police actually follow that up?

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LaRochelle · 07/10/2010 16:38

I would hope they would follow it up! They stopped me and checked out all my details when they thought DS's seat looked at a lean through the window.

hollyoaks · 07/10/2010 16:42

Definitely report her, imagine if something happened to her dc, you wouldn't be able to forgive yourself. There's just no need to absolute laziness like that!

Anenome · 07/10/2010 16:45

They would most certainly follow it up...they would send a car to pull her over. It is a serious offence. DH and I were pulled over with our new baby in the back...the policewoman thought we had not strapped her carry cot car seat in...a Jane one...it looked like a normal carry cot but was securely strapped. We did not mind at all....glad she had noticed. She apologised but explained they always stopped people if they doubted the kids were safe.

AddictedIsFeelingHappy · 07/10/2010 17:20

i have to agree, if she is doing as you say just putting her dc on the back seat and not securing her baby properly, then she needs to be reported.

imagine the guilt you would feel if something happened to the poor baby and you had known but hadnt done anything.

it actually makes me quite angry it takes less than 2 minutes to strap a car seat in and check its secured. pure lazyness and the only person in danger is her poor baby, i bet she put her seat belt on every time they go out in the car

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booyhoo · 07/10/2010 18:21

thank you all, i was expecting a barrage of 'none of your business'.

should i report it now or wait til i see her going out again?

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Shelly32 · 07/10/2010 21:20

B4 you report it, not that i think you shouldn't, couldn't you speak to her hubby? Play on the fact you thought that maybe she didn't know how to buckle the child in securely. Actually then if she is reported, she may guess it's you... What a selfish woman!

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booyhoo · 07/10/2010 22:48

i don't know about that shelly, i am in no doubt that he would tell her i said something and then she'd be banging on my door for interfering, especially if it caused a row between them. i have heard their rows, they are awful, he gets very drunk. i think I'd rather be anonymous in it all if the shit hit the fan.

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