to wish PIL were not here

[Fibilou]

It was my second day back at work today after maternity leave. DH picked me up to walk home and said "Mum and Dad are coming over". I thought oh great, I already have loads to do.
They had let themselves in and were sitting here when I got in. I have a baptism class this evening for which I have to do supper, a lot of work to do for my various outside projects. I could really do without an afternoon of PIL and I wish they would JUST PISS OFF !!!!

+1 I can understand how it can be useful for someone to have a spare key but if they were letting themselves into my house in this situation I'd take the key off them.

I should imagine that DH said "let yourselves in if we're not there" but if that had been me I would have thought "I doubt fibilou wants to come in to us being in the house" and would have gone for a walk round the block until said person was back.

And just for fairness I would hate to get home from work to find my parents here - I like to get home to an empty house, I really hate having to talk the minute I get back from work

I would be definitely having words with dh tonight about only inviting pil over if he is going to be there to look after them. Does he have a history of this or is there any reason why on earth he thought it would be a good idea - PIL coming over on your 2nd evening back after maternity leave, him going out your 2nd night after maternity leave and (long term biggie for me anyhow!) fact he is buggering off leaving you to entertain the pil.

Oh and pil letting themselves in - do you mind them doing that? I get they might have hijacked your dh but he needs to grow some balls to say 'sorry, I am not going to be there and fibi is busy so how about a different day (when I will be there!)

And maybe invite my parents over on an afternoon when I knew he had lots he wanted to do important sports match on tv and then say do exactly the same to him - say Oh I'm off out now but as you so kindly arranged for me to look after your parents, assumed that you wanted me to do the same for you'

YANBU

I hope you DH has an extremely good reason for going out and leaving you with his parents, especially as you've got lots to do.

I'd make it clear to you that it's not on when he gets back.

he does gardening for an old lady as a bit of a extra money so not as if he is pissing about.

I do have a very good relationship with the PIL, usually it doesn't bother me if they let themselves in or if they turn up at short notice. They are very relaxed, if I hoovered while they were here it wouldn't bother them but I would feel very rude. But today I just wanted to get home and chill out - sometimes you just want your house to yourself, know what I mean ?

Maybe you should return the favour? If he watches the football or something then I'd be picking that moment.