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to think breakfast club should serve breakfast!

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mamasmissionimpossible · 05/10/2010 17:15

I collected my ds (4) from school today and he told me that they forgot to give him any breakfast at breakfast club this morning. I feel quite :( because it means he had nothing to eat until lunch. Do you think I should complain?

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nikki1978 · 05/10/2010 17:16

Speak to the person who runs it first. Kids are not always the most truthful Wink

If not yanbu - complain away!

BoysAreLikeDogs · 05/10/2010 17:17

I think you need to ask what happened, but don't go in guns ablaze in case there has been a misunderstanding

dilemma456 · 05/10/2010 17:17

You should try to find out what happened. It may be that he said he didn't want any or it was something he didn't like Are you sure that they actually serve breakfast and its not just a before school care facility?

It may be that he ate breakfast and forgot!

prozacfairy · 05/10/2010 17:18

Did they forget? That's awful I'd complain.

Or did DS just not like what was on offer? Make sure you have all the facts before having a go. Have learnt from experience Blush

crisproll2 · 05/10/2010 17:20

At my DS's breakfast club he has to go up to the hatch to collect his breakfast. If he doesn't the staff just presume he has eaten breakfast at home.

Your DS is only so little, perhaps he doesn't understand the 'routine' or something. Have a quick word with the staff.

It's horrible when something like that happens.

proudnglad · 05/10/2010 17:32

I cannot tell you how many times grandma/daddy/friend's mum 'forgot' to give dd a meal - she's not fibbing, she just can't remember!

I would def check it out before you launch.

laweaselmys · 05/10/2010 17:35

Quite often it is a self serve type thing. Having done this job, it was always a battle (of the mild cajohling, encouragement and flattery kind) to get the reception kids to get some food.

Combination of reasons: not expected to serve at home so doubt their skills, indecisive, too excited, distracted by other things, intimidated by older kids being around...

They all got over it soon enough.

booyhoo · 05/10/2010 17:35

i would be really surprised if a breakfast club had no breakfast for anyone OP. more likey, as other have said, your ds didn't want any or is fibbing. my ds sometimes forgets that he had lunch.

laweaselmys · 05/10/2010 17:37

The advice part of that was, have a word and they'll Be happy to keep a closer eye on him. Before you get on to complaining!

bigchris · 05/10/2010 17:54

At four though I'd expect your ds to be having fruit for a snack in between breakfast and lunch

iliketosleep · 05/10/2010 18:12

My DN has been to breakfast club and not had breakfast once or twice. She is also 4 :(

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mamasmissionimpossible · 05/10/2010 18:40

DS told me that he asked the lady who was the running the breakfast club for toast and jam. He said to me yesterday he wanted this, as we don't have it at home.

I think she just forgot all about his request for toast. I know he can be shy and probably did not want to push it further. He is only 4!

I usually question him about whether he is telling the truth and told me he did not have breakfast. I do believe him.

This is only his second time there, so he is not really sure on the routine or whether they help themselves.

I am going to mention it to the 'powers that be' at the school, but I won't go in all guns blazing.

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booyhoo · 05/10/2010 18:43

i think it sounds like a very busy dinner lady forgot about him then.

tbh i can't see what having a word with school will achieve, she will still be as busy tomorrow. instead encourage your ds to assert himself. practise with him. what is he like at home if he doesn't get something he asks for? does he ask again or jsut leave it?

complexnumber · 05/10/2010 19:32

I think you have genuine reason for concern.

I think very busy dinner ladies need to be aware that they can overlook some children. They need to think of a simple system to ensure it doesn't happen again... to any child.

Definitely no guns blazing though.

psammyad · 06/10/2010 12:36

I don't think a friendly word will do any harm.

If I was a nice dinner lady or breakfast club supervisor, I would like to know if children were missing out - though would possibly be mortified to discover some little lad had missed his brekkie!

If she knows he's shy, & that he really doesn't have breakfast at home, p'raps she'll keep an eye out for him. As you say, he is only 4!

psammyad · 06/10/2010 12:41

Just to add, I do think it would be better just to raise it with the breakfast club lady if you are able to, rather than going over her head at this stage.

ChippingIn · 06/10/2010 12:47

I agree that you should speak to the breakfast club staff if you can (maybe when you drop him off), just mention what happened yesterday and say that he's not very confident, so wont repeat a request. It's really not on though, they should be looking out for the Reception kids this early on in the year.

He will learn to be more assertive now he's at school, but you should do what you can to help him!

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mamasmissionimpossible · 06/10/2010 14:01

Thanks for your replies. I will have a word with the breakfast club staff. I do believe it was just oversight on their behalf. DS said he asked the lady for breakfast, but she just never brought it to him. :(

I am trying to teach him to be a little more assertive about asking again if he has been forgotten. I know that he feels shy around certain adults.

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