to be really really sad.

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I had a Mirena replaced today. I know that another DC would be so not a good idea, but by the time this new one is due to be replaced, I will be nearly 50 yo. DH said that if I wanted to not have it replaced, just removed and we take a chance with whatever happens, he would be OK with that, but I just feel so sad, as my head says no more but my heart says something else.

I also feel a bit silly for being sad, as I know that even without the Mirena my chances of conceiving are minimal, but it's the strangest feeling, and I just feel sad and useless.

But seriously re the OP I think it is very natural to feel that way - it is the end of an era - its like when youre really enjoying yourself at a party or something and then it all starts winding down - you think hang on a minute I m having a ball here thanks - I dont want to go home to bed !!

Also its that getting old thing aswell
but hey some of the happiest most fun people I know are mad old trots ladies of a certain age. There are a few plus sides to getting older. Like grandchildren - marvellous inventions - you just get all the good bits - excuse me must dash - got to pick up my DGS while his mother works

trouts even

This may be a silly thing to say, but wouldn't adoption be a possibility? I am not saying you should actually adopt, or even consider adopting, but couldn't you comfort yourself with the thought that if you really wanted to, you could go down that route? Or perhaps it's just the biological side of things that is making you sad - ie the urge to actually carry a child? If so then I am sure that as others have said, the feeling will pass. Plus perhaps you have grandchildren to look forward to?

Sorry if my post has not helped.

Nbyet

That's a great way to see it! I will think of that when I get to this stage of life ( it won't be long I'm almost 37)

Oh good!

For a proportion of your life you wonder what the future will hold if and when you have children. I think the sadness comes from that period being over. You have your children, they're the ones you have - that's a bit how I feel anyway. The bit of my life that involves having babies is over.

needafootmassage - My DC are 20, 17 and 11. Not even babies still

Which is why I don't really understand why I feel like this.

Hi nafm, thanks for asking, I still feel a bit shit but have got some perspective I think. I think that part of the issue is that if my health etc were better, I would have had at least one more DC, but that is defo not an option in reality, the physical aspects of pregnancy is the issue, not the looking after a newborn IYSWIM.

One thing that Dh and I have talked about in the past is the possibility of fostering. We have a stable, happy relationship, and I do think that we would have a lot to offer.

It might also help the mummy hunger

be kinder to yourself, you are allowed to feel however you like about the fact this implies no more children

Just to say, without arse licking in the slightest, thank you for all the comments, they have really helped me get a perspective.

Living in a household where the only other female is the dog, means that DH & DSx3 are usually a bit about some of my more emotional moments, so to get another POV has helped.

Now for a nice glass of wine before bed.

Which I couldn't have if pg again.