Long story short we have been good friends since school, we were going to be godmothers to each others children etc
She has been with me through some crap times and some good times. Every night after work she used to come round we would order a pizza and have a good chat.
Rewind time to 6 years ago. I got a text from her one night to say she had bumped into someone from school and how good looking he is, after a few days of her obsessing I stepped in and got them together. It all went downhill from there. She stopped coming to my house and started spending everynight at her new BF house which is absolutly fine but then gradually the phone calls stopped and the texts stopped and she didn't often answer her phone. We would see each other every now and then but when we did we found it hard to end the conversations and sometimes ended up outside a shop for over an hour nattering.
Anyway, the week before last I got another rare phonecall and she said that she will definately come down either Xday or Xday as she hasn't seen the kids for ages (3 years)
Xday and Xday came and went and there was no sign, my phone call again remained unanswered. Then the night before last at about 8:30 I was just about to get my PJ's on and get comfy for the night when there was a knock on the door. Enter DF in floods of tears after having an argument with her DP. I invite her in, make her a cup of tea and spend the next 3 hours listening to her problems and trying to tell her that it ISN'T ok to stop him wanking because you don't like it or putting locks on his computer so he can only go on the internet supervised, but also telling her that he sounds like he is being a wanker etc so fair I think, not taking sides. (this is the very short version BTW) 11:30 comes and she gets a phone call from DP so immediately grabs her keys apologises for running and says she will phone me tomorrow (yesterday) Guess what?
Am I being unreasonable for feeling a little bit used?
I am also in the situation where I am getting my DC christened this year and DH doesn't want her to be godmother as she hasn't seen DC for 3 or so years except for when they have been with me and she has said hello. I can see his point but it was a pact we had. Do I keep it quiet?
Sorry to babble!!