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AIBU?

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in thinking that this was not my fault?

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LifeIsButtercream · 04/10/2010 17:43

Three friends of mine came round today - we al have DD's of almost the same age (17-19months). One of my friends is a bit, well, not over-protective, maybe a bit precious (her DD is always dressed in fancy clothes, Lelly Kelli's, has a designer dummy ffs). She is lovely, if a little misguided! The other day she quipped openly that she always dresses DD in 'old clothes, that she doesn't mind getting dirty' whenever they come round to mine...... Hmm

Well, story goes, all DD's were sitting around a little wooden table in my house, eating their dinner (which was a little bit too cute, in my opinion, bless 'em!) My friends DD is messing about on her chair, and manages to tip it over, banging her head on a sideboard (not hard), I dashed off to get the coolpak. When I got back my friend was furious, and went a little bit hysterical on me saying "how could you let this happen?!?!", she then apologised and left with her howling daughter.

I heard from her later saying she over-reacted but was upset that I put the table in a position where children could hurt themselves. She's seen the size of my house, it was the only place left for it!

Just a note - I could not have caught her stricken daughter, as I was 10 feet away in the doorway 'being waitress', while she was an arm stretch away.

AIBU to think that her daughter getting a bump (nothing serious, not even a bruise the next day, she was just alarmed) wasn't my fault, and that my home is not a death-trap because furniture is within bumping distance of other furniture?

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FabIsGettingOnWithLife · 04/10/2010 17:44

YANBU as of course it was not your fault but it seems like you two might have been niggling at each other.

puddlepuss · 04/10/2010 17:45

Better the sideboard broke her fall than she went all the way to the floor IMO. YANBU

alicet · 04/10/2010 17:46

Your friend is being unreasonable but she was probably just upset (and a little pfb) that her dd was hurt.

You are right that these things will happen and don't mean your house is a death trap. However your friend did apologise for over reacting so let it go

LifeIsButtercream · 04/10/2010 17:47

Thanks for putting my mind at ease! I have nothing against my friend - we all have different ways of parenting! We usually get on well.

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thisisyesterday · 04/10/2010 17:47

how stupid. she totally over-reacted, and it isn';t your fault AT ALL.

she is responsible for her child. she allowed her to sit there- if she thought it was dangerous then why would she?
she's being a bit of a pfb twat to be honest with you.
hopefully one day she will look back on this and think "omg, what was i thinking"

ConnorTraceptive · 04/10/2010 17:47

YANBU tell her to feck off

backwardpossom · 04/10/2010 17:48

YANBU but I suspect your friend got a hell of a fright and just took it out on the person who was closest at the time.

Bloodymary · 04/10/2010 17:50

Well that will teach her DD not to mess about on her chair won't it Wink.
Seriously, YANBU, the Mother overeacted, but I suppose she did apologise.

LifeIsButtercream · 04/10/2010 18:09

(breathes sigh of relief!)

Phew thanks!

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atmywitssend · 04/10/2010 19:34

Accidents happen! That's all it was - and there are more to come...............

PinkieMinx · 04/10/2010 19:37

YANBU - but you would be to mention it agian, She apologised for over reaction - we all do it sometimes. she does sound bit of a nightmare tho.

scottishmummy · 04/10/2010 19:54

i dont think this is wholly about kids bump.given way you describe her you have a wee bit of a beef about her.maybe this was just the catalyst for a deeper gripe

she has apologised, we all have ott moments.so leave it be now. that is of course based on premise this is only about a bumped wean...

create · 04/10/2010 20:10

YANBU, but those kiddy sized chairs tip far too easily. MIL bought one for DS1 - I threw it away Blush

PutTheKettleOn · 04/10/2010 20:29

yanbu - these things happen, it toughens them up!

Re: your friend's comments about wearing old clothes... a friend of mine brought her DS over to play with my DD,and i got out the craft stuff for them to do cutting and sticking. My friend said I was 'lucky' to be so relaxed about mess - she never lets her son do anything messy at home! Another friend in the playground the other day, as she wiped her DD's hand with an antibacterial wipe for the 50th time said I was 'lucky' to be so laid back about germs! Confused

Lucky me!

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