I am being unreasonable - neighbours renovating

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I have lovely neighbours, I know we are very lucky. But they are renovating, and it has been constant drilling and hammering on the party wall for the past month.

I am restraining myself from knocking on their door and moaning about it. Please tell me that I am being unreasonable, to get that stupid idea out of my head.

The noise is just soooooo unfair

Chandon - you should get in touch with your insurers and let them know. They will probably send someone round to have a look at it.

I don't see the point of inviting them over when the noise is at it's worse - presumably they are living with the noise too? They will know the noise is affecting you and will feel very guilty about it. They might be avoiding you because of this, but probably more likely that they have a billion and one things to do to get the building work done as soon as possible. I hated the disruption our building work caused (for 9 months) - especially when there was a crane or something, and we lived in it the whole time so there was no escape. I was constantly apologizing.

But one thing we did which really helped was send all our neighbours a letter before we started saying how long it would take, our numbers, the builder's number, incase people ever had any concerns. We also talked through it all with our immediate neighbours. I think your neighbours should have talked to you about how long the works would take, so YANBU.

What you could do is say you have someone coming to stay, in a month's time for example, and you wondered whether it would be finished by then? Then you can have a conversation about it, that's not complaining.

One of our neighbours dropped a note in all our letterboxes purely when she was going to have a skip on the street for a few days - saying what was going on, when it would be delivered/removed and apologizing. But they're like that on this street - one reason we're buying on here.

We'll also be doing rennovatins - during civilized hours (neither of us are morning sorts so no 7am hammering for us). It's unavoidable, and if you've ever done any noisy DIY that they've had to live with - you've really got naff all right to whine about it tbh.

Where I work, in a rather posh London suburb, in any terraced street at any one time there are at least 5 houses being completely renovated. Must be hell for the neighbours - especially if you are home all day. The chances of the other side starting just as one lot have finished are quite high too.

You have my sympathy. Still people do have the right to renovate - I hope it's over soon.