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Weddings-Small Children-Question-I am Not Bride, WWYD?

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Katiekitty · 03/10/2010 20:31

Just wondering, if a small child made a consistent noise, or a baby cried through your wedding vows, would you carry on regardless,even if mother/father/carer refused to take them outside, or would you ask for said child/baby to be removed?

Just wondering, WWYD?

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ShirleyKnot · 03/10/2010 20:34

It would be a bit weird "In richness and poorness, in sickness and in...excuse me? could you take that baby outside now?"

maxpower · 03/10/2010 20:34

i would consider the likelihood of that happening before i invited anyone with small children - if i didn't want that to happen i'd either have a child-free wedding or speak to the parents beforehand about how they'll manage that scenario

mumtoabeautifulbabyboy · 03/10/2010 20:35

I would carry on but I know my mum would have asked them to leave!
Can't believe the parent didn't take the child out. Really rude.
I have taken my LO to weddings, sat near the back at the end of an aisle and would have taken him out had he made a peep! Though that was what pretty much everyone did. I even made my husband do this when I was bridesmaid at my sister's wedding.

Sassybeast · 03/10/2010 20:35

Nosiy as in gooing or babbling, no problems. Crying - I'd ask them to be taken outside I think - unless it wa sa scary relative who would be deeply offended by a PFB being chucked out Wink

DuelingFanjo · 03/10/2010 20:36

Carry on regardless. Rather that than look tike a total twat.

DanceInTheDark · 03/10/2010 20:36

depends on the noise. if it was a scream then yes, if it was quiet chatter then no.

Eglu · 03/10/2010 20:36

I would be bloody annoyed that the parents didn't take the child out. Not sure if I would stop them. Depends how loud the baby was I suppose. If it was stopping everyone hearing the vows I may stop and ask them to remove the baby.

PinkieMinx · 03/10/2010 20:38

Carry on but feel pissed off with the parents!

Madinitials · 03/10/2010 20:41

The priest who married us would have asked the parents to take the child outside. Kind of man he is.

Kirk1 · 03/10/2010 20:54

SIL asked that small children were taken outside when they got restless. I spent the second half of the cermony walking DS around the churchyard. Took him to visit his great-grandparents graves while we were at it... (didn't miss much anyway) seemed reasonable to me. DD was a bridesmaid, so she got to sit up front :)

backwardpossom · 03/10/2010 21:30

I'm taking my DS (he'll be 15 months) to a wedding at the end of the month. I will be sitting at the aisle so that if he makes a noise we can go straight out. I'd hate for him to ruin my cousin's day by crying through her vows.

We were at a Christening when he was about 4 months old and it was fine then, because when he cried, I just put him on the boob... sigh things were so easy then!!!

withorwithoutyou · 03/10/2010 21:33

I would deal with it before the situation arose, as maxpower says.

You can generally tell the kind of parents who are incapable of understanding that someone else's wedding isn't about little Jonny's babbling.

Rockbird · 03/10/2010 21:36

My cousin is getting married in a couple of weeks. DD and my brother's children are the only children invited and she has already told us that she expects us to remove them asap if they start to play up (and she's the sort who would stop mid-vow and tell us to sort it!). But, we absolutely would remove DD etc if she got out of her box so she didn't need to say anything.

bigchris · 03/10/2010 21:36

I would hope the vicar/ registrar would intervene

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 03/10/2010 21:49

We got compliments on how quiet ds1 (aged 20 months) had been during our friends' wedding ceremony - we had to admit that that was because he'd spent more than half of it in Sainsburys with dh, because he'd started to get noisy (ds1, not dh) so they'd gone off in the car for a while, and ended up at Sainsburys.

IMoveTheStars · 03/10/2010 21:55

We went to a wedding with DS aged 2.2y, he was an angel, but prior to the wedding the bride (SIL) made it clear that children were very welcome, and that it was perfectly fine if they wanted to run about/make noise etc as she sees them as part of the family, so important to the ceremony (I'm v lucky with my inlaws :) )

At MY wedding, I would expect someone with an errant toddler who was screaming and stropping to take them outside to calm down.. anything else (normal baby noises etc) would be fine in my book. The only thing I would object to is noise that really interupted the service (SO loud you can't hear it I mean(

MaudOHara · 03/10/2010 21:58

I have always sat at easy exit seats when taking small children to weddings.

So OP were you bride or mother of noisy child Grin

emsyj · 03/10/2010 21:59

I would carry on, but then we got married at botanic gardens so we were already outside and there wasn't really anywhere for any noisy children to go anyway Confused .

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