I know IABU but just want to..

[Peculiarjulia]

...to say something. I'm livid about a situation at work so tell me I'm BU before I make a wally of myself on FB!

My colleague who I work closely with three days a week told me last week that she was being "investigated" about a theft. She was told by our office manager that although the firm didn't actually think it was anything to do with her the firm needed to investigate her as they believed another member of staff was using her signature to steal and they needed to rule her out. She was worried sick. My colleague is not in a brilliant place at the moment. She has serious health issues and is in the middle of a divorce so trouble at work is the last thing she needs.

We have worked closely with the other member of staff too and as far as I'm concerned the firm had her bang to rights. In the past I have known her to lie about work costing the firm time & money, make unfounded malicious complaints about other colleagues and steal stationary/cleaning items on a regular basis. I've always kept this other member of staff at arm's length but my colleague has been friendly towards her giving her lifts home, lending her money for lunch and listening to her problems and sticking up for her to other members of staff.

Now I'm livid because I've done my weekly FB status update scan and i've seen that this other member of staff has left the firm. She doesn't say whether she's been sacked or forced to resign but there are loads of good luck messages, wishing her well for the future and slagging off the firm!

I know IABU to be so annoyed as it's nothing to do with me but I feel so angry for my colleague that I want to say something and let everyone really know what happened and that this evil cow took advantage of her and has got her comeuppance!

It's unfair, but you must leave this well alone. Do not get yourself tangled up in it as well. And really, don't slag off your workplace on Facebook. A sackable offense I think...

Leave well alone. You don't know how the firm will pursue this and if you make a comment you could put the entire investigation in jeaopardy and leave your poor colleague with no closure.

I do not think there is much you can do. I only hope that the investigation will clear your friend for good and find the real theif, for your friend's sake too.

Step away from facebook, no good will come from you making comment!

Rather than broadcasting your views publicly & permanently on Facebook (and why do people do that anyway?) why not go with the time-honoured method in the average workplace and simply hint about what really happened round the water-cooler? Gossip is a great stress-buster...

Yep- step away from the fb...If she's got away with this behaviour so far she'll try it again and again and eventually get caught. (Especially if you send an anonymous tip off to her new place of work if she announces it on fb .)

Don't put anything on FB. It will just make the situation worse and people may not believe you anyway.

Just be glad that this horrible woman is out of your life now and forget about her.

It must be gutting for you to see your "nice" colleague left hanging like this. Did anyone else know she was being investigated for theft? Does she need to have her name cleared publicly? If so (even if only a few people are gossiping), consult your union about setting the record straight.

In a company I used to work for, there was a company-wide e-mail about someone who had been dismissed for expenses fiddling. We were all pretty shocked at the public humiliation, so I guess (a) this sort of step is unusual and (b) the person in my company was more popular than your ex-colleague!

What you can definitely do is pointedly refuse to congratulate the sacked/left woman on FB, and definitely de-friend her.

Chil's idea about gossip is a tempting one, if only to help "clear" your real friend's name!