to feel upset that my mother doesn't have any photos of me in her house?

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but she does have photos of my dc's, my brother, my step fathers dc's, her brother who she isn't close to, a family friend who died a while ago and a nephew whose name she doesn't even remember. I know she doesn't really care about me, she has to deal with me in order to see my dc's who she is very close to. We get on well enough in a surface sort of way, but she's not like a mother more someone you'd meet for coffee. Am I being silly noticing that there are no photos? I'm a bit shocked that there's not even a pretence - honestly if you looked around her house you'd know she had a family, but not a daughter.

Do you have photos of her in your house? My mum has no photos of e up either, but tbh the feeling's mutual

I don't think YABU to be upset.
Does she have any of you? Do you display pics of her?

Take a nice one of you and the children, get a nice frame and give it to her as a gift.

YANBU.

My mother gave all the photos she had of me to her mother when she decided she didn't want to know me.

YANBU. She has pictures of your brother but not you?

Ask her.

No I don't have any photos of her on display, but only have one of our wedding out at the moment. We have had photos of her in the past. We did give her a framed photo of the family and it was put on a wall so that half of the photo was hidden behind a door - needless to say I was in that half.

YANBU to be upset. You have nothing to lose by asking her the reason for this.

YANBU I only appear in one photo in my mothers living room.

There are numerous of my DBs but it's common family knowledge that my mother didn't want me.

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OP - Yes, I would be upset too.

Hard to ask without sounding a bit poor me. She's coming to stay for a week and I don't know how many times I'll have to tell myself to suck it up.

Sounds like my mum, but then I don't have pics of her up either. What does it matter?

Since my parents moved house 10 years ago, if I (and DS) stay overnight it's in the spare room, with loads of photographs of people who are now dead. And the dead budgie, stuffed, in a glass case. There is one photograhph of a living person in there and that's me - the first mas I stayed over I did say to my mum, are you trying to tell me something? And by the way are the ashes of the grandparents in that room somewhere as well? (They weren't. Mum keeps the ashes in her bedside cabinet.)
OP do you display family photos?

My mum has pictures up all over her house. None of me but that's because I haven't given her any.

The only ones she displays are ones given to her.

I'm just not a photo person.

When my DD was married I didn't even take my camera because I knew that the professional photographer would take all the photos we needed.

I wanted to watch my beautiful DD walk down the aisle through my own eyes, not haveing to concentrate on a camera. Even though my latest digital camera is very easy to use.

If the feeling is so mutual then YABU ...... funny that you still are seeking her approval if you don't feel much for her

YANBU. Its unfair for her to have them of everyone in the family except you. It sends a very pointed message to you and everyone who sees them.

i dont know, i mean, my parents dont have much money and i did a whole bunch of pics for them a couple of years ago, had them framed etc etc and obviously they were of me, DH and DD. and one old family portrait that i found with my folks and my DB in. my folks were really chuffed and hung them up.

my DB visited and took MASSIVE offence. said clearly they favour me etc etc. when it had nothing to do with that! we did explain, but he is still weird about it.

not that he has actually sent them any pics of himself to put up in the meantime......

siblings can be weird