to be a bit disappointed by this policeman

[mrsunreasonable]

Last night there was an incident in our street where a car was very badly vandalised (not a window or panel left in one piece) this car was parked next to ours. I saw some of what happened and the aftermath eg car speeding away. My OH only heard what happened and thought it was someone kicking a door in not smashing up a car.

Later on a policeman came round and asked my Oh what he knew completely ignoring me. OH said he heard it but that I knew more about it. Policeman continued to ask OH what time it was, how many bangs he heard, did he hear voices etc. OH said it was roughly such and such time and I said no it was exactly this time cos I looked at the clock. Policeman looked at husband and said right so roughly such and such time then. After he finished ignoring me and asking OH questions he couldn't answer he shook OH's hand said thank you very much looking right at him and walked out the door without even acknowledging my existance!

Is there some sort of police code that women can not be relied upon and they would much rather witness statements from a man even though they hardly know anything?!

I very very rarely have any dealings with the police and found his attitude a bit dissapointing. AIBU?

YANBU.

I wonder how he would deal with a woman who had been assaulted?

He's a sexist idiot. Unfortunately they sneak into every profession.

he probably thought your brain cells were being used up thinking about pink, flowers and washing up.

sounds like a chauvinist twit.

or he just fancied you and felt all awkward :o

that is very odd, and incredibly stupid of the policeman not to even ask you if you saw or heard anything! I wonder if he ever manages to solve any crimes.

I'm sure he's in a minority, although I think you should contact your poilice station about it and make sure they get a statement from you.

I think you came across a shit police officer there.....he should pursue all witnesses regardless of gender.

YANBU. Might be worth phoning the station and telling the desk sargeant about the incident, considering the PO didn't want to know

That is dreadful. From what you say I have presumed he was taking a formal written statement from your OH. Did your OH phone the police in the first place?

You are right to assume he was being sexist, but I suspect he was actually avoiding work - not much better! He should have taken statement from both you and your husband and done it seperately. I am suspecting that your husband is recorded as a witness and so he has been asked to take a statement from him. When he has realised that you are also a witness he has desperately tried to ignore the fact so that he doesn't have to do any more work.

Either way I would phone your local police station and complain!

we didn't phone the police and from what the policeman said (not sure if he was supposed too) they already knew who did it as it was a revenge attack and they were keeping an eye on the victims house but not the car as the victim had tried to hide it by parking it in a different street from where he lived!

I think you are right and was probably trying to avoid doing too much paperwork as in his eyes he already knew who did it but surely if he was just going to take one statement theone with more information would have been the best one to take!

I hope he is more women friendly when he has to deal with women who have been attacked etc. I think I have had too few dealings with the police and have watched too many episodes of Heartbeat and this may have given me an unrealistic expectation of how a policeman behaves. Hey ho I'm sure there are nice ones as well

I suspect he deliberately honed in on the shortest statement. You should still need to provide one though. I would ring and speak to whoever is dealing with the case. I'd casually mention that you made it clear to the officer attending that you witnessed more than your OH but you were ignored!

You have every right to expect more, Nick Berry would not be impressed .

YANBU. Sexist wanker. Probably thought you should have been chained to the kitchen sink.

I'd so ring them again and tell them about this visit.

I totally agree with niggle he was probably trying to pretend you werent there so he didnt have to do another statement.... more likely laziness vs sexism imo.

You dont HAVE to provide a statement if he has enough evidence just with your husbands but he definately should have recorded your details any made a note of any evidence you could provide in accordance with CPIA! CPIA

he gave my OH a card with a number on it so I think I'll ring that and see if anyone would like to take my statement or if they have enough info. He was doing every house in the street by the looks of things so one of them may have seen even more than me.

good idea :) if you speak to the people at the police enquiry centre (non emergency number) they can put your name and details directly onto his crime report on the system... it's then next to impossible for him to get rid of you without speaking to you or taking a statment ;-)

(well thats how it works in Thames Valley anyway)

YANBU
Probably wanted to minimise his work.