Sent to the Headteacher in 1st month

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My DS1 started reception this month. He seemed to settle in ok, he's enjoying learning the phonics the the teacher is very happy with his work. But last week my DH was pulled aside by his teacher and told that DS1s behaviour was becoming "challenging".

Early this week DS1 got on the "teacher's proud of me" board for the first time. The children get a little card to come home with. I was very proud to see the card as it's his first one despite numerous stickers, stamps and encouraging remarks on his work.

However, written on the card was "this is for your work NOT your behaviour." Turns out DS1 was tripping up other children in his class. Queue no pudding and no story as punishment and a good talking to about not hurting other people.

All seemed well but today he's come back with an "unhappy" card and he confesses he was sent to the headteacher. WTF I NEVER got sent to the headteacher and he's been sent in his first month!!!!

After interrogation techniques he says he doesn't want to do as the teacher tells him. Also he does not like standing in line so runs off. No wonder they're getting very upset with him.

So AIBU to arrange a meeting with the headteacher to discuss DS1s behaviour? This is unfamiliar territory to me so I don't know if this is "normal" settling in behaviour or if I'm being overanxious about this.

My son played up a bit in reception, then a bit less in Yr1, then a few times in yr2... In year 3 so far he has been an angelic little swot and thoroughly enjoys being a good boy. Unfortunately his behaviour at home took a nose dive for the 1st few weeks back .

Your sons behaviour does sound bad, but it sounds like you and the school will get it sorted. Supportive parents and an understanding teacher are the most important thing IMO

He went to see a SALT when he was going through the series of hearing tests (about 3.5yrs when he saw SALT). She thought he was ok at that time and his listening skills did improve dramatically once the grommets were in. He is due to go for a hearing test in a couple of weeks.

He is very sensitive to sound. At football he often sticks his fingers in his ears when the coach uses his whistle. He doesn't like the sound of the hand dryers but is becoming more used to them (now to dry his hands he stretches his arms out & ducks his head down so his arms become ear muffs). The school playground is also a bit daunting to him.

I don't know much about APD or whether he suffers from it, I'm open to suggestions but at the same time don't want to label him unnecessarily (other than being a monster child at the mo ).

Good idea Maryz, I'm going on Amazon to buy a star chart once I've finished this post.