for me

[cumfy]

"Can you just pop your PIN in for me"

"Could you just put that there for me"

"for me", it's just a superflous, innocuous, incidental phrase.

So why does it annoy me so ?
Anyone else ?

It's like over-using somebody's first name- an attempt to create a false intimacy in a commercial transaction to make you feel better about spending your money, I reckon. It probably gets pushed in Customer Service training seminars.

Yeah, it's always bugged me too. When I worked in retail, I used to say 'If you could check the amount and enter your PIN please'.

Okay, so it's a bland phrase, but it's certainly less bloody patronising. We were never pushed to be anything other than polite and helpful in our training sessions, either. Some people just take it upon themselves to do it that way. (I used to work for M&S, if that helps)

Ha ha!

I went to the Clarins counter at Selfridges.
The orange lady with scary make up sucked me in with her cunning 'I need you to take care of your sking for me okay?' - 'Can you exfoliate regularly for me? And remember to put on your eye cream for me?'. Fell for it hook, line and sinker. Hynotised I was.

Spent £200. Twat. (Me).

Skin obv not 'sking'

You fell into her trap ?

hehe, I always feel such a rebel walking past those counters with zero makeup on and wearing scruffy clothes. I flatter myself that they're all probably turning their nose up at me while I hold my breath (the perfume smell makes me feel ill).

They'll never sell me anything - I just can't be arsed standing in front of a mirror to do anything other than a bit of eyeshadow and mascara (when I remember). Mostly I forget to put lipstick on and then get cracked lips, too.

Totally. I knew what she was doing but I was paralysed, hypnotised, POWERLESS. And I did get two free vanity cases.

YANBU!!!

I know exactly how you feel.

My skin crawls EVERY SINGLE time someone calls me "Mate", I get it EVERYWHERE!

Nerdyface - not as bad as 'Dear', 'love' or the all time favourite 'darling'. Just makes me cringe.

ah, but Tottwriter, "If you could check the amount and enter your PIN please' ....what?
it's not a complete sentence!
You have to say what will happen once the PIN has been entered.

OP - YANBU - you're not doing it for them, you're doing it for the card company, and ultimately yourself.

I generally, "please put your card in the machine."
"please enter your PIN" (sometimes I might tell them to check the amount, but not always because it just confuses them - it really does! trial and error!)
Okay, that's great, thank you, you may take your card out now"

there's no need for anything else.

Nickel - it was a complete sentence for that point, honest! I generally asked the customer to take their card once the receipt had printed. (Mostly they'd already nabbed it.)

I was also the cashier who would swipe your card if you gave it to me, not reach awkwardly round and shove it in the chip reader out of protest. It asks for the number either way, and it just looks so arsey when the member of staff either does that or hands the card back to you, when the till still works the same if they swipe and park it. (But then, as my DP often tells me, I do "fear change" apparently )

true, on the swiping point - but most of the machines now refuse to accept the card if you don't put it in the chip reader.

we're not even supposed to handle the card, but if they hand it to me, i'll take it and wave it above my head whilst taking it to the machine (not to look arsey, but they normally stand on the side of the desk that doesn't have the machine on it)

Does anyone else struggle with the 'for yourself' suffix?

"Are you thinking of taking out car insurance for yourself?" (No it's for the car) "Can I ask if you'd like to improve broadband speed at home for yourself?" (Absolutely, I'm a selfish bastard and everyone else can have the slow broadband) "Is there anything else I can help you with today for yourself?" (???)

Ha! I struggle more when DH says something like 'I've done the ironing ... for you' or 'I've washed up for you'...

yourself is wrong anyway - it's people who use it because they think you or me sounds less posh, or something. no, it sounds wrong. It's no better than saying "me and Rodney went to the pub" it's wrong and sounds wrong. "myself and Rodney went to the pub" no no no no no no no no no no .
Rodney and I went to the pub. is correct - why can't you say I? it doesn't sound rude, it's the correct word in the sentence!

bramblebrooks DH does do the washing up for me! - ie, he does it when it's my turn!

One I find really annoying is the telephone banking thingy (can't remember which one because I stopped using them as it annoyed me so much!) It is an automated voice but says things like
"okay, now, would you like such and such?"
"right, shouldn't be a moment...just putting that through for you....okay, nearly there..."
Bad enough but when you know there isn't anyne actually talking to you, its just a computer with a simpering voice...argh!

I have just reached the point where someone I was dealing with regarding a professional matter, where I was unhappy with her firms service said 'do you mind if I call you Pag' and I said 'yes I do'

I am a friendly person, chat to people in queues etc. But don't pretend to be my friend when we are doing business. It is fake and makes both of us look stupid

I am also with chil1234 and hate 'yourself' inserted into questions. 'And is this something your would be interested in, yourself?

ah, but they usually say "is that something yourself would be interested in?"

I don't know, but I'll ask myself and see what she says.