To buy my DS a first birthday present?

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DS birthday is in November - I have suggested a variety of presents that are not too expensive but are hopefully toys he will get fun out of for at least a year or so. DP thinks it is a waste of time because he will not remember it (said the same about 1st christmas too), he has suggested a toy box - but this is really for his benefit - so he can tidy DS's toys out of view.

So aibu? Can anyone suggest some toys that might go down well with DP?

Note: I will buy DS a present whatever -despite having a miserable old man for a DP

yanbu! it's not really a waste because your ds will enjoy it, whether he remembers or not he will enjoy it @ the time. and you can always show him a photo of his bday when he is older...
can your ds walk yet? because you could get him one of the pushalong walker kind of things, there are some nice ones with wooden bricks in? then you could tell your dh it will help him developmentally aswell and he could not exactly object. or if you get anything that he will be able to play with for a long time and lasts, like my ds got some fisher price little people stuff like the cars, garage etc for 1st birthday and he plays with it all now still loads, and he is over 2 so that is quite a lot of play, especially since he seems that he will continue with it for probably another year at least
if you haven't got any lego blocks kinda things they are good for that age too, like mega blocks. really dont see how your dh can object to any of these kind of toys
but maybe you could get the toy box + toy present if dh issue is that he wants them all tidied away after?

No you are not being unreasonable. You could suggest to DH that he doesn't drink on nights out as then he "won't remember it".

So won't your DH ever take your DS out for a day trip until he is about 12 so that he can be sure DS will remember it?

Anyway....one of the best things we had for DS' first was one of those wooden trucks with blocks in that you push along. Think it was ELC.

I had this battle with DH. I told him to stop being such a joyless twat dipstick.

Do what I did and buy him something sturdy that he'll love for ages, like Ineedsomesleep said the wooden truck or something similar.

Cross posted with Firawla there, I agree with the Duplo suggestion too.

We also had a Happyland train set from ELC which I bought 2nd hand and he still plays with it and he's 6.

oh god, my DH is one of those... he didn't want to get DD1 any presents for her first christmas as 'everyone else will get her loads anyway, and she won't know!'

Just ignore him! For DD1's first birthday we got her one of those push-along trikes with a long handle for the parent, like this one

She got loads of use out of it, she's 2.5 now and still likes to go on it sometimes. I also wrapped up loads of things that she needed anyway, like babygros etc. And books are always a good buy.

Oh no YANBU. With my two their 1st birthday presents were the first toys they really enjoyed.

DS1 got a little ride on thing that he could scoot around the house on - nothing expensive or fancy - somthing like this.

But what he loved the most was one of those helter skelter things where you put the ball in the top, hammer it down and it went down a zig zag slope to the bottom. He loved that for ages. Nothing like [[
www.toysrus.co.uk/Babies-R-Us/Toys/Learning-Toys/VTech-Discovery-Tree(0016291) this]] to look at but the same principle of putting things down a slide.

DS2 got a larger ride in thing which was a bit more outdoorsy although he used it indoors for ages. One like this

Do they remember their first birthday? No of course not and not the toys they got either but that doesn't mean you won't get lots of use and enjoyment out of them. And they get to see the photos when they are older and know that you made a big fuss of them for their first birthday. You don't have to spend a fortune but it is nice to have something.

Oh YANBU, I can't believe a father would be such a killjoy. What a prat.

All the presents people have suggested already are great ideas.

I have still got the photographs of myself enjoying my first birthday- of course I don't remember it, but it makes me happy now to know that my parents took so much pleasure in making me happy then and were so proud and so excited.

Besides, toys for a one-year old are tools. She may not remember the bricks she played with, but they will make a difference to the person she grows up to be. Come to think of it, I still have some of my baby toys, and my own children have played with them.