to think DP should be around more?

[wholovesyou]

7 months pregnant. DP still goes out with friends etc, I do where I can but am tired all the time, SPD, etc and just want to be home making the place nice for when the baby comes. I dont begrudge him his time with his friends at all, however its becoming a bit much...

this weekend he went camping (he LARPs) and went straight from work on friday. So I didnt see him until 9pm on sunday as he went straight back to his mums to put the camping stuff away.

Monday night he slept from the moment he got in until the next morning.

Last night he stayed at his mums for dinner, and then came back to me around 9pm. We went to bed at 11...

And now hes said that hes going to see a friend tonight, and tomorrow hes at his martial arts class. Friday we are going to a party where I wont see him for dust, and he works Sundays.

Its not like this every week, I admit. But the time spent with me is increasingly sparse.

AIBU to think that with only 2 months left before our lives change forever, we should possibly spend as much time as we can doing things we'll have to give up next year. We used to go to the cinema 3 times a week, and now I havent been since last month! (he went last thursday with friends...)

Sorry, but as much as I do think DP is behaving like a kid (and as funny as I find his hobby of choice), I'm going to semi stick up for him here. Bottom line is that only wholovesyou knows the ins and outs of their relationsip and the question AIBU can only be answered properly by her.

Trust me, as a father it is not easy to come to terms with the fact you're having a baby. As a general (though not exclusive) rule, I think the fact that the baby is inside Mum makes it a hell of a lot easier (sickness notwithstanding) to adjust mentally to the idea. Coming to terms with having a baby just seems to come easier to women. Completely agree with some posts above about gently revealing some home truths about what life will like and explaining your need to have time with him but bear in mind that, assuming he is a decent, kind bloke (and hopefully you think he is) then all this 'him-time' is probably part of the coming to terms with things. Our behaviour only changes once our heads are straight.

Feel free to shoot me down, just a suggestion and - yes - I do think he needs to buck up his ideas and - yes - I do think it needs to happen fairly soon. But a bit of patience, a bit of gentle prodding, strikes me as the best way to make sure the babber comes into a happy home.

How did it go OP?