I spent last night trying to work out whether I was right to feel annoyed at the school for being abit OTT or whether I was being over sensitive. Your views on whether I am BU are greatly appreciated.
DS started reception a few weeks ago having transitioned from full-time nursery (attended since age 1). As I am one of those working mothers (to be pitied and looked down upon in our village!) DS attends breakfast & after school club.
DS has to spend lunch time today with an adult as the teacher had a complaint from the dinner ladies that DS doesn't listen to them and rolls his eyes when they are telling him off (he is 4 going on 14!).
You may ask, as did I, what DS had done to warrant this punishment? The crime? Playing with the older boys!! Apparently the older boys can be a bit boisterous in their play and the school don't want DS to join in. We are talking about infants (the juniors have a separate play area)and the children he plays with at the breakfast & after school clubs.
The bit about DS not listening and rolling his eyes I am dealing with - he does it to me as well and I know how irritating it is (as does he!). I'm just not sure I can see why he can't play with the older boys. I don't believe in wrapping him in cotton wool. If he gets hurt playing with them, he won't do it again!
I could understand the school being concerned if he had started being as boisterous with the other reception chidren but this isn't the case according to the teacher.
I spoke to DS last night about the not listening and the need to respect the teachers and lunch staff - no problem with that. I didn't address the issue of not playing with the older boys as I'm not sure I agree.
DS has always gravitated towards older children and is very comfortable standing up for himself if needs be.
I don't want to make a fuss at the school and am aware that I can be a bit sensitive about anyone criticising DS as I think it is aimed at me for being a working Mum.
This is not one of those posts where I ask AIBU to get a pat on the back, I really couldn't decide last night whether I was right to be annoyed that he wasn't allowed to play with older children or whether the school is right to only let reception play with reception.
Should I take this up with the school or should I tell DS that he can only play with the older children at breakfast & after school club?