Idiotic woman who thinks I am a wimp for being in pain after a 3rd degree tear strikes again!

[DetectivePotato]

There is a mum at our toddler group. She is nice but I do find her slightly irritating.

Before I said about how she calls her DS a wimp. Then she told me and another pregnant mum that we are wimps for being in pain after our last births when we both had bad tears. She was up ironing the day after her c section apparently.

Today I was talking to the other pregnant mum (we are due 3 days apart) asking if she was feeling a lot of movement as I am feeling less this time due to where DD is lying. This idiot woman leans over and asks me if I feel more at night. I said yes. SHe said "Ha ha, that means the baby will be up all night, ha ha". I said thats rubbish and DS did that and was a really good sleeper. She then says she is going to tell my baby to make sure she keeps me up all night?! WTF is she on about?

I know I am hormonal but I wanted to thump the idiot in the face tbh.

Reallytired - I completely agree. If I could turn back time, I would have a C-section. Not because it's an easy option - but because I would have recovered from it by now! It's four and a half months since I gave birth and the problems I've got because of my 3rd degree tear are going to be around for a long time.

OP - She's a loon. Definitely.

Well, I would take one of 2 routes, but I am not very nice.

1)Ignore, but save up her wacky comments and have a good laugh over them with your actual friends later

2)Say "Oh for HEAVEN'S SAKE." Roll your eyes and go back to whatever you are doing. That's only if you don't know anybody who would appreciate her antics.

She sounds ridiculous. Who says things like that?

She sounds horrific. Avoid!!!

She sounds a complete loon!! I had a second degree tear which needed to be restitched after 10 months due to something odd going on with the scar tissue (no idea what as I couldn't see down there!). For goodness sake everyone takes different times to heal and recover.

Ignore her. Tell her ceasarians are for wimps.

It's just a silly, out of place joke. Not to be taken seriously.

She sounds like she was trying to be funny.
Not worth getting worked up over. I probably would have said something like "Don't you dare", or "Gee thanks".

Ooooo I like the "is this the advice you give at work?" Thats a good one as she obviously is in constant contact with new mums.

With the tear comment I wanted to ask her if she had any idea what it felt like to rip from fanjo to arsehole but as there were many children around I thought I had better not .

Agree with the 2 posts above. Not worth picking apart everything this woman says or does because she once said something daft about sections/tears.

PMSL Detective Potato, I was going to say the same thing! I'm getting a section for number 2 because the consultant isn't prepared to run the risk of me tearing so badly again - it would leave me incontinent... Nice!

Agree that she sounds socially inept as opposed to deliberately moronic, though YANBU to be annoyed by her!

I'd just give her confused/bemused looks when she comes out with such pearlers.

she sounds like a socially challenged idiot trying to be 'funny'. I'd feel sorry for her rather than anger.

agree with the others who are saying socially challenged rather than trying to be a bitch, so i would not take it too personally. but if she makes these kind of comments then challenge her on it if it will help? i would not cut her off or anything but dont make extra effort to see her if she is annoying. but sounds like she doesn't know how to make friends properly so just tries it with these kind of jokes

How about; "Do you open your mouth just to change feet??"

Oh god, some said exacly that to me in my first pg. I cried later on! People are awful. Another woman to whom I'd been talking to about not enjoying being pg said "if you don't bond with your baby while pg you won't bond when it's born" I cried then too, right in the middle of yoga class!

Next time wear pointy shoes to the group (the resulting sore feet resulting will pale in significance if you follow my instructions to the letter)...

Wait until she bends over and kick her really hard up the fanjo.

Obviously don't do this in front of the children, that would be highly immature and irresponsible.

I have had both a third degree tear (DS2) and a C-section (DS1 and DD) and I cant tell you the tear was much more painful! I couldnt st down for weeks and couldnt get comfortable whatever I did.

Your friend sounds barking - I have heard that old wives tale and thats just what it is - complete rubbish!

She's no doubt one of those 'know it all about pregnancy/birth/parenting' types that you find at these places.

Just ignore her, silly cow. (Her, not you, OP!)

PMSL PenelopeTitsDropped Great name too btw.

Yes she does seem socially inept and a know it all. I don't blank her but I feel the hormones raging when she continuously interrupts conversations with her twaddle.

Eyedrops in her coffee [evil smile]