This is a long story made as short as I can. My father left the family home when I was 11. In reality he worked away from home lots and drank a good bit when he was home. Mum and him had a complicated relationship but he was physically abusive to her on a couple of occassions and had affairs, was also never there for his children. Parents never got officially divorced and father was very sporadic on child support - think us as kids going down to local boozer to beg him for the crappy bit of money. Mum worked full time, kept home and is a general hero.
Dad threatened to go to courts for family home several times but never did (at this stage Mum has put more into the house than Father ever (part) paid for it)
Now the woman he is living with has thrown him out and he is going after the house. Its not a great house and half of it is worth very little. My brother has a mental illness and lives at home with Mum and if my Father got a share he would just drink it and break my mothers and brothers hearts.
Myself and my other brother and sister want no share in the house, it is for my older brother to give him security.
My father and I dont talk - he refused to come to my wedding (because I wouldnt ask him to give me away) meet my husband or acknowledge the birth of his 1st grandaughter - he ignored both of us when I stop to say hello to him in the street.
I feel sorry for him that he has such a lonely life but AIBU to absolutely hate him for what he is doing to my mother?