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to throw my child's sweets in the bin?

15 replies

Ishouldhavechosenagoldfish · 27/09/2010 10:16

I don't know if I am being a bit obsessive about this, but I really object to my DS (4) being given sweets, because he cannot cope with them and it always sends him completely OTT. Despite my asking the PIL and DH not to buy sweets for him, they still do when I am not there. Then, an hour or so later, I have a hyperactive, screaming child to deal with - it happens every time, even if I don't know that he has been having sweets, I can always tell. So is there any alternative to throwing them (discretely) in the bin?

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thisisyesterday · 27/09/2010 10:16

yes, eat them yourself

ds1 is the same, i tend to say he can have one or 2, then put the rest in the cupboard.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 27/09/2010 10:17

Of course YANBU.

Mind you, cant you eat them yourself once he is in bed? Grin

Algebra18MinusPiEquals16 · 27/09/2010 10:17

eat them yourself.

or send them to me!

but no, YANBU to not give them to him.

arfasleep · 27/09/2010 10:22

No, not at all, my ds always wants sweets on way home from school, just something small, but if he doesn't finish them & forgets about them, they def go in the bin. Also if you are asking people not to buy them & they still do. Or you could save them up for halloween!

NordicPrincess · 27/09/2010 10:25

take them off him and keep them for another time

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Ishouldhavechosenagoldfish · 27/09/2010 10:39

Save them for halloween, great idea, arfasleep! Can't stand the things myself - my brother always refers to my MIL as 'Haribo Gran' - can you tell that we never had sweets as kids?

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 27/09/2010 11:42

YANBU. Our DD loves the idea of sweets and gets them quite often. She then forgets about them and I either eat them or bin them. She has a -piss- pretty poor diet anyway so I am just saving her from herself. At least we don't have the bad behaviour to contend with too. She is badly behaved (temper) sweets or not.

neverenoughMEtime · 27/09/2010 13:53

YANBU. DH's Gran comes every sunday bringing bags of sweets for 4yo DD AND...milkybars for baby DD who is only 8mo!!

I let DD1 have a few sweets and put them in my belly away in the cupboard.

Arfasleep thanks for the idea! I hate going out to buy sweets for halloween so will start saving the ones DD gets every sunday!! Grin

Squitten · 27/09/2010 14:01

YANBU to take them off him but don't bin them - eat 'em! Smile

My family have VERY bad habits with cakes and sweets - always had them growing up in excess and the whole family is overweight but nobody thinks the two things are related Hmm Example: My nan and aunt came for a brief visit on Saturday and, despite asking if they needed to bring anything and being told no (we bought a nice lemon cake from the bakery), they turned up with a massive chocolate cake, smarties cakes and french fancies! DH worked out it was over 8000 calories!!!

We let DS have some cake and then put the rest away and slowly eat it over the following weeks

Bigmouthstrikesagain · 27/09/2010 14:06

no yanbu - but as others have said save some for Halloween or Xmas (or yourself). I have a stckpile of Chocs from Pil as hey are always getting sweets for their GC - very kind but a bit OTT.

It is entirely reasonable to ration out the sweeties - it is not a necessary part of their diet - what I hate is the constant flow of Haribo, my children seem to return from school with them every time some one has a b'day. Which seems to be every day!

We are veggie so I shouldn't let them have them but it is impossible to stem the tide.

Bingtata · 27/09/2010 15:18

YABU to throw them away, I wouldn't like it if DH threw away my chocolate every time I got gievn some.

We have a sweet tin, which lives in the cupboard with all the other food, albeit on the highest shelf. When someone gives DD some sweets I put them in the sweet tin, so that she knows they are still hers, but that it is sensible not to eat too many at a time. I also find the sweet tin very handy on a Saturday night when I fancy some chocolate with my wine because DD never remembers what is in there, but at least I'm not chucking it.

TheSmallClanger · 27/09/2010 15:22

YABU. Bingtata has the right idea. We had a treat box in the kitchen, until I stopped bothering with it for some reason.

KiwiKat · 27/09/2010 15:31

We call my best friend The Candy Man, as he's always treating ds (4) to cake, biscuits or sweets very much against my wishes, although he's getting better lately, or is perhaps just more sly about it ... Hmm I have a couple of reasons for putting my foot down - his timing for presenting these sugary gifts is usually half an hour before bed, making bedtime a nightmare; and we consider sweets to be 'treats' in this house, so I don't want them to become everyday - it's nice to have something that you consider 'special'.

I'd put them away and bring them out as bribes/rewards/parents' treats as and when you need them.

Onetoomanycornettos · 27/09/2010 15:35

I ama amazed how many people take sweets given to a child away from them. If they were given their own body weight in sweets, I might suggest they don't eat them all at once, but I'm not afraid to leave my children alone with sweets as gasp they don't stuff them in all at once, but eat a bit then leave some...because they know through experience that if they eat a lot, they don't feel too good, plus they know eating a balanced diet is important.

Children have to learn to regulate their own appetites in a world full of endless junk.

KiwiKat · 28/09/2010 17:56

I think the OP is not so concerned about the children having the sweets, but about the giving of them. IYSWIM.

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