to think your not helping if all you do is play?

[rpickett]

I know, I know lots of threads by me recently but anyway...

I have my MIL here this week, the idea being she came up while Iam heavily pregnant to help with my two DC's (2year and 1year old) and generally help me and DH out so we could (dare I say) rest a little before our arrival.

BUT AIBU to think that watching me lug the hoover around the house, clean and cook seperate meals for her as she wont eat what we eat isn't helping?

She offered to watch the boys for an hour the other day but asked to make sure they had been changed and fed first, so all she had to do was play with them (couldn't even do that, see another thread).
If I ask she if she would mind doing something, all I get is yeah no problem and 2 hours later I end up doing it myself.

AIBU to be fed of having to look after another person who quite frankly is messier then my own DC's when she is supposed to be here to help, not just play with the DC's and wind them up when getting ready for bed or undermining me at every oppotunity?

I think you were BU to be cooking her separate food in the first place!!!! Why would you do that?

I am heavily pg too, and my MIL has a habit of ignoring me when she is playing with DS and I say something like "time for bed now" or "time for lunch". She just carries on playing with him, meaning he ignores me. So the last time she came to stay and did this, I just said, "OK MIL, you put him to bed/do lunch/make him go to loo" and she soon stopped undermining me! I still had to do it though.

With the food thing, when she says "Oooh could you cook me this instead" just say, "No, sorry, I'm plannng that for Thursday's meal. Shall I let you sort yourself out then?"

With the rest of it, she's either trying it on or is losing it a bit, it's not normal behaviour. How did your DH take it last night coming home to fnd her gone?