AIBU to think my DH should be home by now?!

[oldwomanwholivedinashoe]

So it's gone 4am and I've just woken up to find he's not home yet from a night / day out with friends. He went out at 8:30am this morn. He doesn't go out loads- just average. Today was an annual outing he always goes on to the races.
To be fair he's always back late on this day but I'm just thinking that he's looking after the kids tomorrow- driving them to a party- and where the hell do people go till/ after 4am?!

To be honest I'm thinking he might not come home at all now as it's so late / early :(
If we would have thought that this was okish but I'm beginning to think he'll never grow up. Surely there is no where to go at this time.
I refuse to ring his phone and find out where he is. He will obviously be blind drunk.

Sorry that was supposed to be ... If we were younger.
Tired! Can't get back to sleep now!

Presumably he has his mobile with him, so he should have text at the very least!
If he is blind drunk he might be unable to drive the kids 2morrow, can you do it, or are you working?
They are like bloody kids themselves sometimes arent they!!

I'm working but will make other arrangements for kids- for safety and also as he's already been done once for drink driving and lost his licence.
I text him about 5pm to ask if he was having a good day and got no reply. His battery may have died.

Ok just tried his mobile and it's ringing- so it's not dead- no answer.

Glad you have another driver available anyway.
I do know what its like, so I am thinking of you.
Good luck, and dont forget that you can claim the moral highground for some time after this!!

There's plenty of things to do at this time of night if you're in a big city. If you live in London you can go clubbing on a Friday night and club hop until everyone else is going to work on Monday morning if you so wish.

oldwomanwholivedinashoe: is there any chance that he just missed the last train home and didn't want to wake you by calling or texting to let you know?

^ meant to say and is sleeping on a friend's sofa.

Sounds like he is blind drunk and prob not capable of getting in touch as opposed to up to no good especially if he has track record of this particular night out being a 'blow out'. Guess your key concern at the moment is his safety though. Do you know who he was out with? Could you send a text to any of his probably equally drunk mates just to say you're worried about him?
Men - they just seem to have the 'responsible' bit of their brain switched off sometimes.

If you do become desperately worried you could always give police station local to where he was going out a call & your own local, they'll be quite understanding, must happen a lot.

Bloodymary is right - once he's home and hungover, you'll get some payback out of it.

Good luck hope you hear something soon.

Agree with queenstromba, probably asleep on drunk mates sofa

Thanks ladies. I don't think he's up to no good- prob drunk and passed out on someones sofa as you say.
We don't live in- or anywhere near a city- nowhere open past 2am. Taxis only - no public transport past 11pm.
As his phone is ringing I'm not thinking he's been hurt etc as I'm presuming that someone would have answered or used it if this was the case.
I'll just have to wait till he wakes up to find out I guess.
Just annoyed!

Sounds like DH. I wish he would grow up sometime.
You have my sympathy!
Last month he didn't came back till 11.30 am, was passed out on a freind sofa and too drunk to answer his phone.
Like you I have never doubted his faithfulness.

He's just come in. No sound of taxi so he must have walked- he's downstairs trying to be quiet. Why are men such children- I think that's a new thread entirely!

Glad to hear he is back, love the fact that he is trying to be quiet!
Now you can make him suffer!!
And yes, that would make an interesting new thread.

Glad he's home safe. The fun can begin tomorrow

And at trying to be quiet...

The trying to be quiet bit reminded me of this joke!
Flynn staggered home very late after another evening with his drinking buddy, Paddy. He took off his shoes to avoid waking his wife, Mary. He tiptoed as quietly as he could toward the stairs leading to their upstairs bedroom, but misjudged the bottom step. As he caught himself by grabbing the banister, his body swung around and he landed heavily on his buns. A whiskey bottle in each back pocket broke and made the landing especially painful.

Managing not to yell, Flynn sprung up, pulled down his pants, and looked in the hall mirror to see that his butt cheeks were cut and bleeding. He managed to quietly find a full box of Band-Aids and began putting a Band-Aid as best he could on each place he saw blood.

He then hid the now almost empty Band-Aid box and shuffled and stumbled his way to bed.

In the morning, Flynn woke up with searing pain in both his head and butt and Mary staring at him from across the room.

She said, ?You were drunk again last night weren?t you, Flynn??

Flynn said, ?Why honey, do you say such a mean and humiliating thing??

?Well,? Mary said, ?it could be the open front door, it could be the broken glass at the bottom of the stairs, it could be the drops of blood trailing through the house to your bed, it could be your bloodshot eyes, but mostly?..it?s all those Band-Aids stuck on the hall mirror.?

gtamum