to expect an RSVP

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DC's birthday party today so hired a large hall with play facilities and bit the bullet and invited his whole class. (He is 6) 30 kids in class I received 2 definite can't come, 17 yes and the rest did not reply . In the end I had some turn up who had not RSVP and some didn't come who had said yes 9 parents didn't even get back to me. I know it's not a national disaster but it's bloody irritating and rude. I even gave my mobile number on the invite so all they need to do was text ...and breathe

Yes I agree.

This is a recurring theme on MN (not moaning re yr post, more saying it's a common problem) and totally rude imo.

I always reply, all it takes is a cheapy text or an email or just stop them in the playground and say.

I do chase people up now if I've not heard by a week before. In a hall it's not as bad but still you can have party bag nightmare etc.

YADNB This really annoys me too but it always happens, from wedding invitations to big birthday parties and DC parties. Why are people so bloody rude? leaves host with decision on whether to make party bags or not for non repliers and how much food to do??

yes, it's very rude

that said, i have found myself guilty of this twice in the last year (and was suitably mortified)
i had got invitation, got home, written it on calendar and thought "will tell the mum when i see her at school"
then of course i promptly forgot

thankfully both times the mums approached me and asked me if ds1 would be at party, at which point i apologised profusely.
i am terribly scatty

so no, yanbu to expect an RSVP, but it's always worth chasing up too!

I know it's been done before [sorry type emoticon] but I just wonder what sort of manners these people are trying to teach their kids [starting to sound like my mother emoticon]

YABU

yanbu

I have done this when the invitation arrived home from school after the party date.

YABU to expect people to RSVP. They just don't.
YANBU to be irritated as hell by this - as far as I'm concerned it's breathtakingly rude. People operate on the assumption that you have psychic powers.

ASecret - why is it U?
I cannot understand how anyone would think it OK to ignore an invite

This time last week I was at my 40th birthday party,organised by dh.

I have to admit I was astounded at the amount of people that just didn't bother rsvp'ing to the invitations. We had people turn up that hadn't replied, people that had replied brought friends (!!!) and some that had replied they would be there just didn't bother coming!

I find it incredibly rude,so no YADNBU.

ASecret please explain if I'm being unreasonable why so ?

Yes, it's irritating but its par for the course that you have to chase up a certain number of invites. I would always chase up though and not just leave things hanging so that there are surprises on the actual day.

Personally beyond a gentle reminder (which I did) there's only so much I can do . I think the onus is on them to reply ont on me to chase them ad infinitum.

If you invited less children it would be less stressful when it came to rsvp situation.easier to Chase up 5 or 6 parents than it is 30!!

Yanbu. It is DD's party tomorrow and one child hasn't replied. Is at a soft play place so am hoping they don't turn up as could cause difficulties although i would obviously pay for them.

Child has been off school for past few days so haven't been able to check. Oh well, will find out tomorrow.

Everyone else replied promptly :)

I was just joking

Lovechoc I have had the same problem with a party with 6 children a few years back ! Maybe it's me