To be mightily peed off by my friend's text...

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...which she sent knowing I am going to be made redundant in two days and have no job to go to? It said she thought I would like to hear her good news that her job (she's been there for a year) has been confirmed as permanent and she couldnt be happier.

No 'how are you getting on' or 'I'm sure you will find something soon too'....

Insensitive of her, or over-sensitive of me? It made me cry, how pathetic am I?

Insensitive, but probably not intentional.

I don't think you're pathetic, I'm struggling to find a job and having regular arguments with the bloody Job Centre, it's made me cry too!

Sorry to hear about your job, no luck finding another one?

Insensitive of her i would say.

Is she usually the type to stomp all over people thoughtlessly?
If not then she's caught up in her moment of joy. She's not done it to hurt you. Just been dense on sensitivity. Text back saying you are thrilled and hoping you'll soon have similiar happy news on you getting a cracking new job.
Have a cry. Dry your eyes and focus on your future with a smile.

aw I feel for you, I was made redundant 18 months ago, I only found work this week, it has been soul destroying. But you will find something and it will get better and you will have pennies again. the job market is slowly picking up, and even with a whopping great gap on my cv I have been able to move forward (finally)

you are probably being a touch sensitive, she was just wanting to share her happy news, but when you're struggling it is easy to take everyone's else joy as insensitivity.

for me the most difficult thing was to listen to people whinge about only having £60 to buy clothes and go out with a week, when I was living off that. I have learnt to hold my tongue a lot in the last year.

I wonder if it was a sort of 'round robin' email sent to multiple people in her address book?

If it was a one-off message written to you specifically, agree it is very insensitive.

I doubt she would want to upset you, but I'm not surprised that it has. Might it have been one of those generic (is that the right word?) that she sent to all her friends and family?
Good Luck with the job hunting, know just how you feel xXx

What pancake said. Reply saying how pleased you are for her (you are, right?) and hopefully it'll be your turn for some employment good fortune soon. Unless she's got form, in which case I'd probably be quite rude to her . Good luck - DP's on the job hunt just now and it's miserable.

Thanks for kind words. She's done this sort of thing before to me, I dont think its intentional as such but my DH reckons she feels inferior to me as I had a decent job that was pretty well paid. She was made redundant herself last year and I tried to be really supportive and was really happy for her when she landed this job, but tbh she hasnt mentioned my redundancy once, not even to recommend any agencies she used, offer commiserations etc.

Other friends being really lovely about it all and DH bought me a bottle of rather nice fizzy to cheer me up. All the best to you Skyrg and anyone else in this horrible boat.

Perhaps she just sent the text out without thinking.

I hope you find another job soon!

I had a six year gap on my CV after redundancy and then subsequent ill health. It took a little while, but I have managed to find something.

Fingers crossed for you

Good Luck x